• nickwitha_k (he/him)@lemmy.sdf.org
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    1 year ago

    Yeah. Context matters. In Grandma’s time, women had much less agency and legal recourse, often needing significant physical abuse for divorce to be legally accepted. It would be sound advice for that context.

    In the context of modern times, I was happy when my spouse got her own account because it was a big step forward in independence but if she had opened secret ones, there would be an issue and we’d be going to marriage counseling ASAP because of the breach of trust. Our marriage is a cooperative partnership, not a competition and I’d never stay in a marriage with someone that I could not trust.