• bradorsomething
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      25 days ago

      I don’t know if I could date a 20-year-old, she’s half my age. She’d have to be allowed to bring a friend to keep it fair.

      But humor aside, I’m curious how people are actually meeting people. Everyone is so busy, and apps are motivated to keep you there and swiping. It looks like a bad deal.

      • Spaceinv8er@sh.itjust.works
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        24 days ago

        I’m on the latter part of 30 and I’m in bumble and tinder. I decided to give myself a month on them and if nothing happens I’ll remove it. I’m not exactly on the prowl but I feel like I’ve given myself enough time to “work on myself” since my last relationship. So I’m testing the water. Also all my friends are all hitched or have kids, so there isn’t a lot of mutual single friends.

        It’s either, super model hot bot, or no thanks… There really isn’t an in-between. I understand that sounds shallow, but that’s been my experience. Then when you finally get matched no one actually makes conversation. Like I’m not going to sit here and try to drag a conversation out of you.

        You’re right too. The apps are also really only focused on just trying to get you to spend money, not getting you a match.

        Tinder for example says I have 20+ “matches” but I can’t see them unless I pay. And when I swipe it’s not like any of those people are put up front. You only get 20 likes and none of them will be the people that have “matched” with you.

        It’s also not cheap either. It’s like 20 dollars a month.

        Bumble is even worse.

        It’s a stark contrast from how it was several years ago.