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Cake day: March 27th, 2025

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  • It is also something I also want to avoid as much as possible. I’d rather have the uncomfortable conversation with someone than ghost them and I have actually walked that walk before, having uncomfortable conversations I wanted to avoid in order to not ghost someone else. Just wanted to show empathy for people who do it and maybe provide an explanation to the rest of us wondering why others hurt us that way.


  • As a person who spent a lot of time feeling rejected and unsure of why people were happy to be my acquaintance but not my friend, never getting any explanation why I wasn’t good enough (the answer was undiagnosed autism and the trouble with social skills that comes with that), ghosting with no explanation hurts me in my soul.

    I get why people do it though. How do you know if it’s a person who was clueless to what their bad behavior and is desperate to have literally anyone tell them what they do wrong so they can change, or someone who will flip out and get violent or stalkery or super spiteful towards group members once ejected from the group? How do you know it will not spiral into some giant drama, especially if you were wrong or others disagree about if their behavior was objectionable? Conflict avoidance, whether for justified reasons or not, is very very common.












  • Counterpoint: the arguments are fun.

    Some people care about trying to find out the author’s interpretation. I share this urge and cannot explain to you where it comes from rationally. It just is.

    Also, what canon is and thus what author intent you could try to glean from that could be important, especially if the author is dead and can’t clarify their intentions. Historians looking at influential media probably want to be able to tell what kind of message they were trying to send or what messages they were inadvertently reflecting. So whether a character canonically did something that reflects a certain historical viewpoint (author trying to send message), or fandom liked the idea but it was never canon (here were the popular attitudes of the day in that audience) might actually be important.

    But yeah, for people not interested in fandom and not looking at popular fiction for historical sentiment analysis or whatever, I get how people could be annoyed. A lot of hobbies look pointless if you yourself do not engage in them and they are not immediately and obviously creating something new (woodworking, music, crafts, etc).




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    17 days ago

    Not sure which shmups, but definitely short levels from each shmup to accommodate how busy people are around the holidays. You can expand and play more if you want to, but each day is only a level. I’d ascend in difficulty as the days go by and compensate by decreasing level length (e.g. the first day is a longer level you can beat on the first try, the 20th is a shorter level people would probably need to retry a lot).




  • The importance of checking which community you are in!

    On one hand I get the resentment at having a negative opinion and getting downvoted by people who do not share it, especially when you expressed your opinion civilly; on another, it is a reasonable expectation that when you enter the Thing Enthusiast Club and say “Thing sucks” without a detailed critique they will not be too pleased, and I think it’s kind of an understandable thing. While we do need to welcome differing opinions, always having an open and welcoming ear for differing opinions might make it hard to just sit and enjoy things with likeminded people. Sometimes you just want to watch the game, the movie, bake the cake, without hearing about why the sport sucks or the movie is a hack job or the cake is bad for your health.

    I think there are subscribers who are community regulars looking to just enjoy stuff together, and then the people coming in from Local or All understandably wondering why they cannot say anything negative about the Thing, especially when it might make an interesting point for discussion, and I am not sure how to resolve that!