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Cake day: December 16th, 2025

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  • idk, this reads more like posting anything that reads as “cozy” than screeching.

    notice lately how nobody makes a point we disagree with nowadays or gets mildly upset, when we talk about people proposing things we do not like they are ridiculous screeching crying babies? it’s… disheartening. i’m not the biggest fan at all of the direction of !nicememes nowadays and try to post memes instead of generic “cozy” tweets when i have time, but come on, she’s not screeching. she is just sharing someone else’s post





  • ah, but didn’t you know you always trust your gut?

    not me being irrationally mad that when i was on reddit, r/askreddit had so many “trust your gut” stories and threads of “reddit, when did you trust your gut and it turned out to be right,” and very few “reddit, when did you trust your gut and it turned out to be wrong?” threads. but it is also true that stories of avoiding a danger that manifested are more exciting than deciding to not avoid a danger that never manifested, so the latter got fewer clicks and engagement

    just… really glad that i see something agreeing with the “don’t always trust your gut” viewpoint for once. although i super super understand risk aversion and that it’s better to avoid a danger that never manifests than it is to go boldly and end up facing danger, because that’s how i am. but i also imagine that “trusting your gut” and avoiding that weirdo creep just might have been “i’m unfamiliar with this” bias against neurodivergent people who don’t 100% know how to come off normal even if they desperately tried to, or against people from a different culture or race who don’t do the exact same social signaling you’re used to (or maybe they just do, and implicit/unconscious bias does the rest of the work for you). as a neurodivergent person i wonder how many people have “trusted their gut” and decided to write me off. (but i also really can’t blame people for avoiding if they thought i was dangerous, i get it.) there are probably other, more dramatic cases where trusting your gut can legitimately harm yourself or others in a way beyond just missed opportunities or the harms of social exclusion/judgment, but this is the one that immediately comes to mind.



  • I get the sentiment expressed, but tbh…

    possibly depressing examples of these things existing, emphasis on the "bait" part

    you can already get lovebait, just look at all the romance scams people fall for. Hey guys, I’m trapped in a driver’s license factory, but I’m also a lonely heiress to $50,000,000. I love you, please send me $1,000 on Moneygram baby <3 I need to buy a crowbar to get out of here! I’ll love you 5ever. You, me, and the $1,000,000 I’ll give you as a wedding gift.

    you can already get whimsybait, check all those ads for AI saying it’ll make you the protagonist of a quirky story with reactive characters


  • I’ll be honest, I really don’t get this one besides the guy getting super meta.

    I do wonder how meta people got in historical times. They definitely thought about their legacy, how others would perceive them when they were dead, but how layered did it get? “Will people think I did X because I was worried about my legacy?” Trying to both not get all “lol historical people dumdums with no resemblance to the thoughts we had today, even though they too were intelligent humans” or “lol historical people thought exactly as we do today, no concepts had to take time to learn and permeate culture before they became something people would think about, ‘we stand on the shoulders of giants’ and they had the exact same quantity of and access to these giants that we do today”



  • This this this this. I am dealing with the real world every day. I hear about and try to do something about the horrors. But joy is important too for resisting, and it’s hard to have that when you check on online and there is snark everywhere and shoving the horrors into every possible discussion. I probably could just get offline, but on the other hand I want to help the Fediverse grow so I keep coming back. Even taking my approach of only looking at communities I subscribe to… I had to filter out gaming@lemmy.world because people would politic in every conversation. I appreciate a safe space from the horrors.







  • But luckily, all the adults were right about this one!

    Post kind of reads like one of those “lies you were told when you were a kid” posts, but actually you just get the fun of learning about this critter that is much cooler than you thought it was now that you stop and think of what you were taught about it; the adults told you no lies but a cool truth you might appreciate more when you are older.


  • On one hand I definitely respect where you are coming from. “Too political” is frequently wielded at the oppressed by oppressors; “two genders, male and political” and all that.

    On another hand, as a queer, neurodivergent person of color I don’t handle the constant aggression and “another bad thing happened because of a country’s government, or a political party” posts well. I get paralyzed into inaction. Fediverse “apolitical” communities, at least in my experience, tend to be safe spaces for people like me without bigotry. I’m far from the most oppressed person on earth or even the USA, but I do think I am correct when I say that sometimes, some oppressed people want a break from constantly thinking about and reading about their oppression. If I don’t aggressively curate my feed on the Fediverse and instead take what is hot and popular, it is going to be chock-full of people arguing about politics (specifically in the sense of big actions and policies taken by governments). So I curate, avoid these posts, and find enough energy to take political action in real life instead of scrolling thinkpieces on why this political happening happened for hours online. If there were no spaces free of that specific kind of politics (that yes, also made the political choice of removing bigoted posts and comments), I’d probably eventually just be chased off the internet entirely.

    But yet again, this could be my own specific perspective talking and other people do feel silenced and suppressed, so…




  • I specifically only ever look at Subscribed, never Hot or All or Local specifically to dodge all the US politics. As an American. This works well for me, but I admit just jumping on almost any instance and seeing what is there before you get to log in and filter to only Subscribed is very disheartening. Always some outraging and depressing US politics content on the front page, even without algorithms intentionally trying to push outrage (because unfortunately, outrage naturally succeeds on its own anyways—being angry generates more urge to type 5 paragraphs).

    The other commenter’s explanation works well too. But if I have to deal with all these horrid political happenings in real life, I don’t want to come online and see more of it and dwell on it. And having all those politics so popular online… for some it might be informative but I think for most it’s just a venting space and I’m not sure if it’s helpful (getting rid of bad feelings and expressing your feelings is important, a third party could look on and see peoples’ points and get their mind changed) or letting people blow off anger in a way that neutralizes most of their energy to help others or resist bad things more tangibly (volunteering for soup kitchens, calling up their representatives, protesting, local organizing, paying the switching cost and putting in the time needed to move away from infuriating enshittified platforms and learn or self-host a new one), while pushing potential users away because they think the Fediverse is all US politics all the time with no escape.

    Grateful you are trying to make a community that is more likely to hold solutions and people trying to solve outraging problems, than people posting about how another bad and outraging thing happened to the tune of 300 upvotes and 30 comments about how angry they are. Pleased to see an Mbin-hosted community, too. More software diversity on the Fediverse is nice.