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Cake day: October 7th, 2025

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  • It’ll be awkward at the start, but a good therapist is primarily someone that listens without judgement and after a time, will offer suggestions on how you can address the issues bothering you.

    They’re not generally cold and calculating, that stereotype is decades out of style.

    What you’ll find is a space you can talk… and before you go in, ask YOURSELF what your end goals for the therapy are and make a list of the points and ask the therapist if they can be realisitcally achieved, but don’t expect a direct answer for that at first. The therapist needs to get to know you and your issues a bit first.

    Ultimately, all of it will be down to you, and no one else.

    A good therapist - be it a psychiatrist or psychologist (I prefer the latter) will get you to see what is holding you back and center you ON you… not in a narcissistic way, but see the whole person - good and bad - and learn to work to open yourself to change.

    Remember, it will take some time, and the changes a therapist makes are in getting you to see your own strengths and weaknesses and how to avoid the pitfalls that people often put up in front of themselves when trying to better their lives.

    Guilt, trauma, self-doubt… that shit is real and the best therapy gets you to see where the baggage lies and to let it go.

    The therapist you find may be awesome and you click instantly or they might not. If not, don’t give up, move on to another person as every therapist is different and has different approaches to getting you to open your head to yourself.

    I was in counselling for years as a teenager and it really helped me cut through my own insecurities and stop me doubting myself and got me the courage to leave home when I was 18 - with rocket boosters on, even though it sucked BIG TIME for years afterwards. (oh how it did!) It was all on me and I turned out ok in the end.

    Therapy is a process, the main thing is to not bullshit yourself about any given situation, no matter what.

    As to privacy, HIPPA laws still apply, and there is also nothing stopping you from asking about how robust their privacy controls on patients data are. Ask for paper copies of the records for yourself, that way you can have them accessible at a later date w/o having delays as the older records are fetched, if you need them. You DO have that right.





  • Trump won because he ran against 2 women.

    Biden was inevitable because of how shit Trump’s policies were and that the public was in real pain from the 2017 Tariff and trade war…

    Once the Democrats had tipped the economy back onto it’s feet and were digging the country out, the pain subsided and the sexism reared it’s head again.

    That the Democrats couldn’t see the most basic sexism working to Trump’s advantage, is breathtaking. Any serious male Democratic candidate would have beaten Trump last year, but no… We got touchy-feely women-power at the same time the online spaces were poisoned with gender identiy wars and it torpedoed ANY chance with a female candidate.

    Will say one thing, the conservatve right knows how sexists think and for sure they leveraged men’s rage to the detriment of everyone.


  • Your anger is precisely what Trump is looking for. Don’t give it.

    It’s rage-bait attention seeking done by an insecure, immature man.

    Get past it and just pivot to it being an old man in the throes of dementia.

    (…which it is…)

    THAT will piss him off, as his father, Fred Trump, went down HARD from the disease. It’s Trump’s existential terror, if what his niece, Mary Trump, has said about it is true. So far she’s been 100% accurate.

    “Grampa Dementia” is following in his dad’s footsteps. Poor Donny can’t help himself, it’s the disease, after all, doing the speaking for him…

    That is all.











  • I finally am allowing myself to take some down time for my own sanity. It’s weird how slowly a work ethic can tale over your mindset and the next thing you know, you’re putting in 24- 25 days in a row of work and are burnt out… Rather than be frizzle-fried by Christmas, I decided to stop now and actually enjoy the holiday. This is a first, and it’s been a long time - too long - that I’ve allowed myself to relax.