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  • I’m not that into or familiar with cars, but I can do what I consider the basics: replacing lightbulbs/wipers, changing oil, changing tires, jumping/replacing a battery, etc. I moved to a new country with a different language, where very few people do their own auto work.

    I’m a woman who doesn’t know any of the vernacular for mechanical issues, and so they just completely ignore me. My husband seems like he might be into cars, but he was astonished when I changed his headlight for him while we were dating. Now we just go together. They only talk to him, but I make the decisions (he used to pay €200 for the headlight replacement, which he considers normal and which I find profoundly overpriced- I won’t do my own brakes, because I don’t want my last thought to be about how I shouldn’t have done my own brakes, but it’s very easy to figure out if you did the light right).














  • You won’t be considered geriatric for about forty years. You might have a geriatric pregnancy, but that’s just the terminology. Like how an eighty year old can have juvenile diabetes, it doesn’t mean they’re a juvenile.

    You probably haven’t yet reached your mental prime yet, but yes, you might be at a disadvantage sprinting against a 22 year old at the same activity level. That’s only really relevant at the highest levels of athletics though, and you can still be healthier than you were in your twenties.

    I’m older than you are, and my sisters are more than a decade older than you are and none of us is experiencing this. None of our doctors (in three very different areas) prepared us for this. If it were normal, even if we didn’t personally experience it, wouldn’t our doctors warn us about it? All of the women in this thread are telling you that they didn’t have anything like this, isn’t that something to consider?

    You might not have anything that is showing up on a test you’ve had done so far, but isn’t it worth looking further into whether you could have normal energy levels?

    Even if they don’t find anything wrong, making your doctor understand that you’re not experiencing a normal level of fatigue might let them help you. I had a carpool buddy with idiopathic narcolepsy, which just means they don’t know what causes it. He was prescribed stimulants and worked with his doctor to figure out lifestyle adjustments that helped (like carpooling, so he could drive while alert in the morning, but didn’t endanger himself in the afternoon. He’s the only person I’ve ever seen be so tired that he sounded drunk while sober after a full night of sleep.