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Cake day: June 27th, 2023

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  • I got back into Marvel comics because I got into the Marvel By The Month podcast. They read and review every Marvel comic, one month at a time, in chronological order, starting with Fantastic Four #1 in 1961. They talk about what was going on in the world at the time, get into the lives of the creators and the industry, and talk about how well they’ve aged (or didn’t). Plus they’ve got an absolutely incredible murderers’ row of guests. Matt Fraction, Tom Brevoort, Steve Englehart, Mark Waid, Brian Michael Bendis, etc etc. Learning more about the behind the scenes and the people involved reinvigorated my love of the art form.


  • A different take: Metropolis, and Gotham, and of course Earth-616’s New York City are where our pantheons live. Larger than life characters meant to tell allegorical stories about cultural values. And every red-blooded American knows that Superman stands for Truth and Justice, Spider-Man is a selfless hero of the people, and that Batman is a billionaire psychopath who uses violence to address mental health issues, his own and society in general. That last one’s not great but it is quite American. Zeus was a bestiality-themed rapist, so I mean shades of grey or whatever, lol.










  • I appreciate the feedback, and I apologize if that’s how it came across. The phrasing was poor and I did not intend to conflate the attraction to penises with either the sexual role performed or my own gender expression. The expression “people with penises” was used to include trans women and gay men, not to exclude anyone. I, as you say, would be fine with a prosthetic or strap on, and I am definitely not ruling people out on their genitals, but I understand how that could come across based on my phrasing. I’m actually talking to a trans guy right now and we’ve been talking a lot about exactly that. I kept trying to get my previous SO to peg me but she wasn’t into it. I super appreciate the feedback though and will keep it in mind going forward.




  • Yeah I think a big part of the issue is that I don’t really like either gender expression, at least in more traditional terms. I have work to do learning about non-binary or agender folks, I think. I understand that sexuality and gender are not the same; I just think working through one is making me ask questions about the other. A big part of this is looking to be the task of figuring out what I actually want.

    Thanks for the response, everyone here has been incredibly kind.


  • I see where you are coming from, and I appreciate this explanation. I apologize if that’s how I came across. The phrasing was poor and I did not intend to conflate sexual attraction and gender. Two separate things that I am dealing with simultaneously, lol. The one sort of led into the other. I chose the phrasing about penises because I did not want to exclude trans women, but I see how it could be problematic. As Valmond said, it does appear that my attraction seems to be with the penis itself and less with whatever gender has said penis equipped, and I recognize that does not determine or necessarily influence my own gender expression. The internet is a difficult place to have thoughtful conversations, and I really appreciate your well-thought out and helpful response.