I am fine with labels, just don’t expect me to care about them. It’s not that I don’t like that they help some folks, I simply don’t care enough about any of them to be bothered.
My least favorite is ‘preferred pronoun’. Son, I won’t even remember your first name in an hor, there is no way I am remembering your pronoun. There is a reason we iuse pronouns, and its because they are readily accessible and guessable.
This is one of my favourite parts of being non-binary; it’s such a great filter for weeding out people who lack empathy.
People who immediately go “OMG that is SO COMPLICATED sorry but I can’t do that I won’t even try” when they learn that I use they/them pronouns immediately reveal to me that they’re not worth my time, and that they’ll never truly see me and respect me as I am.
I am fine with labels, just don’t expect me to care about them. It’s not that I don’t like that they help some folks, I simply don’t care enough about any of them to be bothered.
My least favorite is ‘preferred pronoun’. Son, I won’t even remember your first name in an hor, there is no way I am remembering your pronoun. There is a reason we iuse pronouns, and its because they are readily accessible and guessable.
why don’t you just use “they” if you don’t know
This is one of my favourite parts of being non-binary; it’s such a great filter for weeding out people who lack empathy.
People who immediately go “OMG that is SO COMPLICATED sorry but I can’t do that I won’t even try” when they learn that I use they/them pronouns immediately reveal to me that they’re not worth my time, and that they’ll never truly see me and respect me as I am.
So you can remember peoples’ pronouns, then?