Any time I get hurt/angry/let down by her, she “didn’t know what to do.”
“I want to help you, really, I just don’t know how your mind works. I don’t know what will make you angry. I don’t know what you need in the moment.”
I wind up with a whiteboard in her living room like Bernie before congress showing her what she did, why it’s wrong, what to do next time… and I’m just tired. I always have to put in the work to get treated right.
Everyone tells me to leave, but I don’t want her to have nothing.
Sorry for venting. I’m just asking to be heard, right now.
My MIL is almost the same way with my wife and myself.
Stay strong. Hopefully you find a resolution sooner than later.