• Norgur@kbin.social
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    10 months ago

    Exactly! Way too many people confuse “honesty” and “rudeness”.

    “I don’t like that red carpet”=honest
    “This carpet looks like shit”=rude

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      10 months ago

      But that isn’t the same

      That carpet looks like shit=rude

      That carpet hurts my eyes=rude and honest

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      10 months ago

      True honesty often comes across as rude. If someone asks me what I think of their new carpet and I think it looks like shit, I’ll tell them just that. Saying “I don’t like that carpet” would feel dishonest as it’s only limited honesty. (being honest about the opinion or thought, but not about its intensity)

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        10 months ago

        Then you say I really don’t like it. The way you phrase things can still be rude. Or rather, you can be totally honest and find a phrasing that’s not rude. Answering “it looks like shit” is just not a friendly way of communicating.

        But to be honest I don’t give a fuck what I do, you’re probably just trying to justify your rudeness.