• D1G17AL@kbin.social
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    1 year ago

    I mean, they could both have a little more backbone themselves and actually say to each other, “Oh wait. I don’t actually want to go out today. Maybe we can plan something in the future. Have a good night/day/whatever.” That’s simply too much to ask though I guess.

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        1 year ago

        No you don’t, you just do it because you said you would and the other expects you to

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          1 year ago

          Well the important thing is that you’re here to tell me I’m wrong about what I do and don’t want.

          You may not have any nuance when it comes to whether or not you want to do things, I get it, kind of. A lot of people here seem to be very black and white about either you want to or you don’t and really can’t wrap their head around the idea that others have shades of gray and conditions that can effect whether or not they want to go.

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            1 year ago

            Good answer. I like these thoughtful responses and I agree with you on the matter

            Sometimes you want to meet only when you know the other one really wants to meet too. And sometimes you don’t want to go, but as soon as you arrive, you are glad you did it. Life is not just black and white

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                1 year ago

                It’s not literal you in this case, it’s you (as in me). Not sure how to explain it otherwise. You were talking about how “you do this” and I don’t think you meant that literally, same with my reply. Do you get it?