I’m not the best communicator while not distracted to begin with. Often struggling to verbalize a thought or find a word I can’t remember for some reason. If I am focused on talking, though, I can usually get by well enough and even be a bit witty, especially if its not face-to-face communication. However, if I’m doing something else, like doing something with my hands at work, and someone tries to talk to me, I stumble over what I’m saying quite a lot. Banter is nearly impossible. I can normally have a bit of back and forth with someone and throw some funny quips in, but in these situations I just end up saying something stupid and often taking things too literally, only to immediately internally regret my choice of words as I properly process the conversation in the next moment.

I think it’s because conversation takes a good bit of processing power for me to have flow “naturally”. Any sort of distraction diverts some of that processing power and impedes my conversational ability. It can be pretty frustrating since everyone seems to want to talk while working and it just doesn’t work for me.

Do any of you share a similar experience? If so, how do you deal with it?

  • Zaros@lemmy.world
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    1 year ago

    I don’t have trouble listening to someone while doing something else, but speaking is a different problem. Then again, I’m quite bad in multitasking in general.

    I had an interesting conversation related to this with a friend of mine a while back. Apparently she usually thinks mostly in words, while I think in more abstract sensations or images. (summer = dark green color + feeling of warm sunlight and warm wind) All she has to do to talk is say her thoughts outloud, while I have to first translate them into words and sentences before I can even open my mouth.

    • burgundymyr@sh.itjust.works
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      1 year ago

      I like to say that I think in really big mutable general concepts, abs only in specifics when solving a puzzle or troubleshooting. Sensations is much closer than words for sure.