I hate this. I don’t know if it has a name, but it’s like this weird form of imposter syndrome. “Was I actually unqualified or are they just racist?” It happens with everything, from dating, to job hunting, to looking for places to live.

I appreciate it when racists are up-front with their bigotry and let me know they’re assholes versus the racists who never say it out loud yet let it inform their decision making. Foxes and wolves, as Malcolm used to say.