• Randomgal@lemmy.ca
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    1 year ago

    Bro can’t take a hint. Do yourself a favor and don’t insist on talking to someone who isn’t as excited to talk to you as you are with them.

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        1 year ago

        People don’t owe you explanations of their choices. If literal silence is not enough of a hint, why keep pushing? That’s on them. They are making the choice to keep going. Why is the other person responsible for that choice?

        They are choosing to listen to their own neediness rather than facing what’s right there. And that is a short, uninterested response.

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            1 year ago

            You literally repeated what I said. Yes, I agree. You are responsible for what you say. If you keep talking to someone, you are responsible for making that choice.

            Ok, you didn’t get the message the first time. Now you had a learning opportunity, if you choose not to use it and instead blame it on the other person, that’s on you.

            “Don’t talk to someone that isn’t taking back to you.” Isn’t a secret skill gifted to a chosen few. It’s a learned skill, that everyone has to learn.

            This isn’t even “taking a hint”, it’s just logic. Don’t eat pepper if you discover you don’t like spice.

            If instead of learning, you choose to blame the other person. You’re using the other person as an excuse to not take responsibility or expecting something you have no entitlement to (their attention).

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          1 year ago

          That doesn’t really apply to dating apps. The whole profile vanishes when someone unmatches you.

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      1 year ago

      There’s a big “unmatch” button. In real life, sure, you can give curt responses to try to signal that you’re not interested. That doesn’t translate to the app. Hit unmatch and they vanish. There’s no good reason to dead-end the conversation on tinder.