A trend that I am not fond of in 2025 is this: I've seen men go from sending unsolicited nudes, to aggressively demanding nudes, to aggressively demanding not just nudes but specifying angles, shots and poses.
Gentlemen (using the term generously), apparently this needs saying:
You are not entitled to nude pictures of the bodies of all the women in the world. Especially women you've just met.
Random women are not your personal porn stars.
There is a whole internet full of free porn. Avail yourself of it to your heart's content.
There are hard working people (of all genders) who have accounts on sites like OnlyFans who will be happy to provide you with the custom porn of your desires as a professional service for professional premium rates. If you want a professional service, pay a pro, and support indie content creators.
On a related note, because this seems to need saying as well: "No" is a full sentence.
Note: I am 100% sex positive. That's not what this is about at all.
The issue here is egregious and growing male entitlement to consume women's bodies and sexuality as objects, and also our time and energy.
This isn't an "incel" thing or a "Gen Z" thing: I see it from men of all ages, levels of experience, and for that matter political alignments.
I'm speaking from (extensive) personal experience. I'm exhausted by men acting this way and my patience for it is nil.
[If your experience is different, and I hope it is, then that's not what this post is about and you're welcome to discuss your own experiences on your own account.]
Guys, if you want to make lasting connections with women, I swear it's as easy as treating us as if you saw us as fully human.
On a positive note, men who consistently treat women decently, respect boundaries, and understand consent absolutely stand out. (There are a lot of you on Fedi, too.) Thank you for being the bright lights you are.
#Sex #Sexuality #Dating #Consent
The interesting part here (and the part that matches my far less extreme experiences in the '90s) is that …
… this is not based on the politics or age of the people. Gross messages like this came from every kind of man: young, old, left, right, whatever. Add in the crowd that thinks “Asians are my fetish” is a fine thing to say in an introductory message and, well, this is why I bounced hard from the whole scene. I got tired of having to find my skin after it crawled completely off my body and hid in a shivering pile in some dark corner of my home.
Hi, you probably didn’t see it, but this is a women’s only community. We appreciate the polite and respectful disclosure from the start. But please mind the rules and share elsewhere going forward. Thanks!
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Hi, you probably didn’t see it, but this is a women’s only community. We appreciate the polite and respectful disclosure from the start. But please mind the rules and share elsewhere going forward. Thanks!