If done intentionally, what were you hoping to achieve? What effects did you notice, both desirable and undesirable? Why did you end the orgasm denial streak? What did you learn from the experience? Did you do it solo or with a partner? Demographic details (eg, age, sex, gender, sexual orientation, relevant kinks), if you care to share, are also helpful to understand your experience.
Btw, I created an !orgasm_denial_psychology@lemmynsfw.com community.
For me about 3 weeks. But normally one or two. I do this on a cycle almost. Sometimes I just have no interest, but it’s more that I feel much more sexual when i haven’t come for a long time. Touches feel much stronger, I get more precummy which is exciting and when I do come it feels much better. If I leave it too long it starts getting painful though. A month is too much.
I normally wait a week or maybe two and then start edging for an hour or more, then leave it without finishing and do it again for a day or two or more. Strange enough I don’t really get ‘blueballed’. Eventually I’ll screw up and go too far like I did today :( . I use a masturbator synced to VR with an edging button but I pressed the wrong one and suddenly made it go flat out for half a sec at the wrong moment lol. It was nice but I was hoping to stretch it more.
The next days I won’t be in the mood, my ultra sensitivity will be gone etc. I wish I could recover faster. I can still cum again but it won’t feel very good.
I usually do it alone, I do have some friends I do stuff with but usually it’s not edging as you really have to be able to read each other for that. I’m male, 40s in Spain. Currently poly but solo though I have a few open friends. Heteroflex. Submissive bdsm too. I deeply love slow and sensual, I can get a lingam massage for 1,5 hours and in trance at the end lol. I don’t like hard & fast.
Thank you so much for sharing 🥰! It’s neat how you delay orgasm to have a better orgasm and that you know the optimal weekly/monthly schedule for doing so. It being painful if you go too long (eg a month) without coming is interesting. I’d never heard of lingam massage, so thank you for that nugget as well 😘
Lingam is amazing if it’s done well, it’s not ‘just a handjob’. It’s very gentle. For me it’s the most intense sexual experience because it combines deep relaxation with excitement.
Having said that I’m not a typical guy sexually. The girls that did the lingam on me said most guys don’t like it. I’m ultra sensitive in daily life as well.