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  • DisabledAceSocialist [comrade/them]@hexbear.net
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    I am so sick of the judgment from people who have no idea what it’s like being ill. Latest one: I mentioned on lemmy that I wanted to learn to draw but have been feeling to tired and brain foggy to start. Some judgmental twat told me to stop letting myself rot. Like, these idiots can’t even imagine what it’s like living like this. I’m dealing with cancer, it’s treatment, the after effects of a stroke and other issues, all while dosed up to the eyeballs on prescription meds with a lot of side effects, but oh how lazy I am letting myself rot and not taking up a new hobby throughout all of this.

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    Ayo can someone please explain to me why mass forced vaccination is a tool of the bourgeoisie, I don’t want to brigade or dog pile the user talking about that, it ain’t about that shit, I just know there are well read quality posters here and I’m too close to the topic to discuss it without getting angry, having a shit immune system, that and it being in a measles thread rubs me the wrong way https://hexbear.net/comment/6980102

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      I am an immunocompromised person living in America and a forced vaccination program under this current administration sounds like my worst nightmare. You have plenty of very well-spoken responses in that thread from both Keld and queermunist by now, but…

      please explain to me why mass forced vaccination is a tool of the bourgeoisie

      We can (must) be dialectical about this: what do you think the current ruling class in America would do with the power to forcibly “vaccinate” people?

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        At worst I can imagine they microchip you and give you a worse version of any vaccine so you need to subscribe to their program and every two months you need to get it again and then they sell your data to everyone, also you need their vaccine app on your phone, also after a while there will be a scandal were they weren’t even vaccinating you and just giving you saline water shots, in all honestly I wrote that yesterday when i was tired

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    An annoying thing about my volunteering as… uhhh… I dont really know what the title would be in English, “patient advocate”? Anyway an annoying thing about volunteering as that is that my instructions on how to treat people i get from doctors (Not the curriculum mind you, but from work and passive contact with doctors) and the instructions I get on how people should be treated by patient advocacy experts are diametrically opposed and it is making me cynical.

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      They really should be aligned almost perfectly. If they’re this opposed, it only proves that there’s something seriously wrong with medical care in general

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        They should. But incentives ruin it on the healthcare provider side. Even if you want to do well, you have limited time for each patient and you’re rewarded for getting people through the system.

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    Coming to terms with the fact that 99% of the things I ramble about are embarrassing as hell. The combination of having bad social skills due to Autism and having no filter or restraint due to ADHD is wild.

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    I hate being lectured on how accommodations are a sign of weakness and too much for poor porky to provide, yet we spent the last 50 years bending over backwards for porky and shoving free money in his face and all of us doing everything for him. Still, none of them have been in the hiring mood since 2008 and see every applicant as a burden they need to avoid rather than just a part of doing business.

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    With the recent incident of Tourettes being in people’s circles of talking, while IDK if the guy who did say the N-word apologized, but let’s say he did and has no actual hate.

    It’s kind of disgusting how everyone is spreading around what would be a very embarrassing moment for someone as a smug gotcha “he said the funny word. Suck it, moralists!” like he doesn’t want to hide behind Tourettes, a tic put him in an embarrassing situation.

    You’re literally acting like a south park joke.

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    I’ve never posted here before, so I’m hoping I’m not breaking any rules or acting in poor etiquette. I’m epileptic and some months back I was hospitalized with severe seizures, ever since then my memory has been utterly shit. It’s embarrassing, forgetting basic things at work and around the house. More importantly, I don’t feel totally present in my life now. My sense of time, from months to days, is screwed up. Seriously, sitting here, I can’t tell you just what month I was hospitalized. A couple months ago or more than half a year ago? I’ve never had such bad seizures. I feel like it is so taxing on my wife who already has so much to deal with.

    I’m not really sure why I’m typing this except that I guess I could use the support or some perspective. I feel such guilt and helplessness lately. My wife, family, and friends deserve better than me being so screwy and needy. But I know if the roles were reversed I’d do anything for them. I just hate feeling so helpless and stupid.

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      you’re more than welcome here!

      and yea those are common feelings with anyone who’s disabled i think, feeling like a burden. i don’t really have insight i just want you to know that you are loved meow-hug

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      You are welcome here, anytime you’d like to post <3

      I feel for your struggle, friend, and I can only try to imagine how confusing your time perception has to be. Have your doctors told you if there’s a chance it could normalize again?

      I also want to let you know that you are neither stupid nor a burden. You have a disability that impacts you severely. And that feeling of helplessness is one many of us in this community share. While we can’t make the issues go away, we can listen and give each other the space to talk about it and not feel so alone with our problems.

      Thank you for sharing your story, and we’re happy to have you meow-hug

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    I wish I could show you, when you’re lonely or in darkness, the astonishing light of your own being. You are loved, you matter, and we’re grateful you’re here with us.

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          …how do you have this happen and not investigate this from the university’s side? Like, hello, you should care the most about the workplace being safe???

          How often do you have to go to this lab area?

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            Used to be every day! I haven’t been down there for a couple of months, but we’re looking at having to go there at least twice a week next month, so that sucks.

            …how do you have this happen and not investigate this from the university’s side? Like, hello, you should care the most about the workplace being safe???

            The faculty were informed by the environmental medicine department at the local hospital in 2019.

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              Okay, so they absolutely don’t give a shit. Maybe a lawsuit will get them off their asses, but for that, you’d need to get a bunch of people on board.

              we’re looking at having to go there at least twice a week next month

              Did the report explain what was so hazardous? Maybe you can wear additional protection? Or simply say you refuse to go there for health reasons?

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                There’s been no formal investigation, but the assumption is that it’s formaldehyde exposure that’s the main culprit, which makes sense given that the entire hallway near the labs smells of the stuff.

                I think I’d need to wear a respirator to be totally safe, which I don’t think is realistic. I’m gonna have to send a mail to my classmates and my instructor

                • gingerbrat [she/her]@hexbear.netM
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                  Yeah, as useful as formaldehyde may be for conservation, it is also pretty fucking dangerous for the living. Has the report mentioned any type of cancer in particular?

                  You could go for masks (with your classmates and instructor together) but otherwise, maybe just try to get the class to some other area.