Mine:
- Learn a second language and keep up with the language your parents speak. You will regret being a brat about not wanting to speak this language especially as your family members pass.
- The only opinions about you that really matter are from the people you respect and who respect you back
- Being a kind humble person, who leads their political convictions with curiosity and not self righteousness is important. As that one person said: “I am no hero and neither are you.”
- Don’t throw out your old media (mix cds, tapes, records, photos, zinee, etc) because you think they’re embarrassing. They either will not be embarrassing later or they will become expensive and you can tell them for mad bucks.
My advice would be not to listen to advice people on the internet give you.
Which would include your advice you’re posting right now so then that means that they should listen to the advice people on the internet give you ?
Yeah, getting people to think for themselves is a paradox.
Exactly! 😂
Don’t let your curiosity fade
Maintain open minded compassion for those different from you
Never be fully convinced you understand the best way to do anything
In disputes between the affected and the unaffected give added weight to the most affected
Learn to recognize a moral panic, and even if you have concerns related to it don’t join in. It’s the group dynamic equivalent of spiraling and catastrophizing.
Don’t drink your calories unless you want to gain weight
This life has no meaning. Absolutely none. Do what you enjoy. You don’t need a “purpose,” grind culture is toxic and will only lead to burnout. Slow down and listen to the birds sing.
What’s your advice for younger folks? Nihilism!
Optimistic Nihilism, is quite a good philosophical framework.
But I would recommend a mixture of optimistic nihilism and stoicism.
If nothing has any inherent meaning, the things you chose to be meaningful are as valid as any other choice.
If you take nihilism far enough, you loop back around to absurdism instead. And that’s where things go from “why bother? Nothing matters so what is the point” to “why not? Nothing matters so I might as well enjoy life.”
I think Absurdism
do you think that you should do what you enjoy at the expense of another person? like (in an extreme example) to harm/assault/ hurt someone because you enjoy it?
I think hedonism is important, but it comes at a cost. The candle the burns twice as bright and all that. At the same time if you never fuck around, you’ll never find out.
I think far too often young people go through life thinking they already know who they are, instead of treating life as an opportunity to find out who they are. They become calcified, ossified in their beliefs about their own identity, a constant and repeated telling themselves of who they are in an effort to believe these things.
An alternative approach is to try to break down who you are, repeatedly and continuously. To try new things, to change the situation. Leave a city without warning and move somewhere you don’t know the language. Abandon your belongings, your phone, your identity and start over. Change the situation entirely. Begin to understand what is you and what is the world. If you move from place to place, and you find yourself always confronted by the same types of people, maybe you are seeing a reflection of something you are bringing with you from place to place.
There is a very western identity of “knowing” who you are while simultaneously having done no exploration of who that person might be. I find it very curious.
Super interesting perspective. Thank you!
In regard to the second paragraph, I am very much a metaphoric horse who will not even be led to water, let alone drink. This has, unsurprisingly led to a great many humbling moments in my life. In regards to those who “know themselves”, those who are most sure are those least humbled. Even if misfortune never visits you, always question yourself, your actions, and your intentions. You will find insights by doing this as a mindful part of your life.
I don’t know why you are being downvoted. This is an excellent question. Personally, no, but that’s because I feel empathy towards other people and enjoy cooperation/community.
However, imagine if you were born without empathy or even enjoyed hurting others. Does that make you a bad person? Our society would certainly see it that way. You would be ostracized/incarcerated for not being the same as others because you enjoy hurting people. But does that make your existence wrong? I don’t think so. To be honest I don’t think there is such a thing as wrong and right, just selfish and selfless behaviors.
All this to say, I would say no and certainly don’t condone it, but if you ask someone else they may say yes. Who is to say that either one of us is right?
Ah…, the conundrums of subjective morality.
Thank you for this response!
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But who defines them? If there is no god to determine that then that belief is entirely subjective. What one person views as good will be bad to another. How do you determine who is right?
Civilization and cooperation are intrinsic. The rules of human cooperation dictate rules of behaving. You do not require a god to establish murder and hording of resources and sexual violence as bad. They are defined as malum in sae for reason, in law.
Community sets the rules, adjudication, and punishment regardless of the inspiration of the rule. A god can provide a framework but people can do it too.
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Well, I’m afraid that’s where we diverge in beliefs then. With a god it is perfectly reasonable to believe that, but without one it’s not.
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Be willing to burn bridges. Some people really do need to be told to fuck off.
Keep learning new things.
Learn cursive and develop your own handwriting.
Writing down things physically makes learning way easier. And keeps your brain young - because, there is a reason why dementia is hitting some people in their 40s.Edit: brush your teeth and floss every day. If you don’t like to floss every day get a water flosser for those days.
Cursive as a primary concern and dental hygiene as an afterthought? Hot take…
Keeping your mind young is primary concern.
Dental hygiene you should already have.If you learn cursive poorly enough, then you can pose as your own doctor, and get all the medicine you need. It just makes sense.
Never, ever stop asking why
It’s way easier getting in shape young. Don’t put it off.
don’t listen to your elders, they’re the dipshits that have the planet in this mess politically and particularly ecologically, they don’t know shit.
Okay youngins make sure you do the opposite of what everyone says in this threat!
I agree with you but I’m also just being silly . Maybe the better argument is be selective as to which elders you listen to.
As someone raised by a very ignorant silent generation grandfather, there is a middleish ground. Listen to the stories. The lesson you may take may not be the intended but can be instructive. What is important to remember is their world no longer exists so take the advice with a grain of salt. While I am just as mad as anyone else with the mess we have been left, close personal older family and friends can still provide useful advice. Just… Weigh it out with your lived experience. Use what serves you. Edit: spelling
Stretch, hydrate, learn. Continuously.
I’ll add: take care of your teeth cuz they’re expensive, and learn to cook before you move out.
Or get used to eating burnt food, that worked for me
Hey, burnt offerings were made to the gods of old, right?
Both of these can be outsourced though. You can replace your teeth, and order takeout. You can’t replace your body or your mind.
But in general I agree with you.
If I could offer you only one tip for the future, Sunscreen would be it
Start saving for old age now. It might seem like a long way off, and you might not have much money right now to begin with, but being young and poor is way better than being old and poor.
Don’t “save”.
Invest.
@charonn0@startrek.website The only wealth that matters is time
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but as much effort as you can into math. There is the common trope about it being useless and that is I think due to peoples misunderstanding of it. Math is mental abstraction. Math problems are like excersise. No on complains push ups have not real world value. Its understood that doing them gets your body in better shape to do physical things. Similarly math helps your mind be in better shape to do mental things. Unfortunately you don’t really do it after you are no longer in school so its not bad to try and use it whenever you can. Add your purchases up in your head and try and figure out price per quantity and compare products. do suduko. Also grab elementary logic if you can as it gives a math like framework for reason.
Wear sunscreen
Educate yourself, and question everything. No one is worth following blindly. If you don’t understand the “why” of something, keep digging until you do. Critically thinking is the most valuable skill you can have, so develop it as much as you can.
Don’t make trends your identity.
You don’t want to look back on your life and all the photos you have of yourself, just to realize every fashion choice, purchase, event you went to, and way you talked was all because it was seen as cool, trendy, or “normal.”
Live your life in a way that feels right and true to who you are, and what your values are, not what anybody else things is “right” for you to do.
