• caurvo@lemmy.blahaj.zone
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    17 days ago

    My experience is totally different. Growing up in Australia in a single-sex school, men cooking or cleaning were laughed at by teenagers, unless it was the barbeque since it’s manly. “Get back in the kitchen” jokes and “make me a sandwich” jokes were everywhere and amplified once our classes became co-ed.

    The invisibility of toxic masculinity at that age was the most damaging thing. Nobody wanted to be seen as weak, so there was never a chance to understand what being strong truly meant. I think single-sex schools are unfortunately breeding grounds for the manosphere.

    I always hated crying , hated feeling emotions, never wanted to be seen as weak emotionally. I’m still suffering the consequences of that environment, as suppressing sadness impacted everything else.

    Edit: apologies, did not realise what community this post was in. Did not mean to ignore the rules.

    • edwardbear@lemmy.world
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      17 days ago

      That was a powerful sentence. Too busy not to look weak, so you can’t understand what being strong truly means.

      Well put!