Hey,

This’ll be a bit longer because this is a crucial situation for your personal growth! I’m really happy about questions like this because they are the foundation of improvement, either self or situational.

1. is irrelevant for anything impacting you. Comparison with others won’t bring you insights on yourself in a situation like this because you will not be able to fully assess anyone else’s external perception with your own internal one.

Then:

You have two questions to answer:

A) what impact will this experience have on your future interactions with others and the kind of human you want to become?

And B) is your second question: “what now?”

For both I see the same foundation:

Note that their impression “a person is annoying” and their descriptive cause (emojis, caps) must not necessarily be correct. I mean that people can perceive you as annoying but can’t express properly why so describe superficial.

Annoyance as a reaction is caused by humans being confronted with something unpleasant that we don’t have control over combined with uncertainty.

So someone jumping into a conversation with a reaction that others don’t understand, can’t follow, feel distracted by and don’t know when it’ll happen again (and/or for how long).

Sou have the chance to look at written communication and try to read your message from an external perspective: would a link between what was sent and your reply be clear without your thoughts or inner dialogue? Would the choice of words and formatting stand out to them as “making it hard to follow”? Identifying your own patterns and how they are perceived by others is hard: you must try to separate your intentions completely from what you actually sent. “But I only wanted…” doesnt alter the message after all.

But this is not a single message situation. You’re describe a group dynamic over a longer time period.

All of this is then the foundation for your second question. And I would rephrase it as “is it worth it?” - you either can try to salvage the situation by getting in contact with anyone willing to listen, apologize and explain what you’ll make different. Or you come to the conclusion that it’s not worth your time, effort or doesn’t match the target self you’d want to be.

The last sentence is important: after the self reflection you won’t come to the conclusion"they are completely right" nor to “I didn’t do anything wrong” - it’ll be somewhere in between.

Perhaps this is a group that’s overly sensitive to your style of humor or you discover and underlying -xist pattern towards you. Then my opinion is: fuck those people big time.

Perhaps you come to the conclusion that you’re just not aligned on what to talk about and you attempted to change the subject very often. Then it was a nice time and a good spot to say goodbye.

Perhaps you come to the conclusion that you indeed where an annoying little fuck, now looking back - and you’ll have the biggest self growth jump of your life because of it and those indeed are awesome people you’d still like to call your friends. So you invest energy and time.

It won’t be any of those three in full, though - the advice is:

Look at your own behavior, learn from it to come closer to the human being you’d want to be and then decide if for that human this would be a great group or not.