My theory is that they are living in a world of hierarchies and apologizing is admitting a mistake, which takes them down a few levels on the hierarchy of power/popularity.

  • A Chilean Cyborg@lemmy.world
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    Nah, intention is what matters to judge a person, accidents or ignorance are unavoidable, and many other parts of human nature at play here as well…

    You also need to just understand that people are flawed and what they do about that is what matters.

    • ᗪIᐯEᖇGEᑎTᕼᗩᖇᗰOᑎIᑕᔕ@sopuli.xyz
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      Yup exactly. I would even go so far as to say that insisting on getting an apology when they had no intention of hurting is tyrannic. “You were insensitive and now i’m hurt. Now i have the right to make you feel the same way!” – No, doesn’t compute.

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      Accidents of ignorance are unavoidable, but accountability is important.
      We all make mistakes, what we do about them includes taking responsibility and apologizing, otherwise we’re bound to repeat them and spoil relationships.

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      The problem with that is that you get the maliciously ignorant who’ll staunchly refuse to learn and hide behind ‘that wasn’t my intention’/‘I didn’t mean to’ etc. all while keeping up the hurt just as much as the first time.

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      All very true. Now if it’s something that repeatedly happens despite them now knowing it’s hurtful? Well then even if the action itself isn’t deliberate, the inaction to notice/stop or change can make it equivalent to being deliberate.