• FlakesBongler [they/them]@hexbear.net
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    3 months ago

    lacking basic hygiene

    Yep

    A lot of these guys don’t even know how to do laundry because it’s woman’s work

    And you better believe a lot of these guys refuse to wash themselves properly because it’s gay

    • TheDoctor [they/them]@hexbear.net
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      3 months ago

      A lot of these guys don’t even know how to do laundry because it’s woman’s work

      This was me, not because I was worried about doing women’s work, but because my mom was so insistent on doing certain things for me that I stopped trying to learn until I moved out for the first time. It’s embarrassing to be a grown man and not know how to do laundry because of some random sexist bullshit you were submitted to. I thought for a long time that I was just ungrateful for my mom doing my laundry for me. But now I’m a parent and no, I was fully justified in being pissed. I had genuine interest in learning to clean and in being clean and my parents refused to teach me. That’s bullshit, especially when it was sexist on top of it.

        • taiphlosion@lemmygrad.ml
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          3 months ago

          As a fellow autistic I understand but also my tism compels me to be clean because I have sensory issues otherwise, I hate hate hate being dirty/having cluttered space/etc