I can’t help but think that a lot of resentment from guys who aren’t getting laid comes from society’s notion that if you can’t or don’t get sex, it means you’re a lesser human being and that makes it okay for others to hurt you. In that position, I could easily see a man resenting women as the gatekeepers of his full humanity, and that by not having sex with him, they’re depriving him of it. It’s very similar to some angry thoughts I had when I was younger, and in a worse timeline it’s entirely possible I could’ve fully plunged into that same cesspit.
That isn’t to justify any of the awful shit that incels say and do, of course - many reactionaries lay blame in the wrong place for very real problems they face - but I feel there has to be a connection there.
Non-falsifiable orthodoxy but for misogyny be like
Yes, men do get shamed too, for absurd shit like “being too nice to a feeemale” which is seen as “simping.” Are the cishets okay?
It’s one of those insults that reveals the inner ugliness of the person who uses it. “Oh, you’re being decent to a woman? You must be after sex, because I can’t imagine any other possible motivation for doing such a thing!”
I don’t think they are tbh ✨
No. It took me a very long time to figure out how I could “defile” someone I loved. The answer of course was to reject the framing, but that was a tough nut to crack as teen/tween. After that I still had to unprogram a lot of misogyny before I was able to start dating.