I can’t help but think that a lot of resentment from guys who aren’t getting laid comes from society’s notion that if you can’t or don’t get sex, it means you’re a lesser human being and that makes it okay for others to hurt you. In that position, I could easily see a man resenting women as the gatekeepers of his full humanity, and that by not having sex with him, they’re depriving him of it. It’s very similar to some angry thoughts I had when I was younger, and in a worse timeline it’s entirely possible I could’ve fully plunged into that same cesspit.

That isn’t to justify any of the awful shit that incels say and do, of course - many reactionaries lay blame in the wrong place for very real problems they face - but I feel there has to be a connection there.

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    On this topic, I don’t really like how “incel” has become synonymous with “misogynist” - yes, incels are misogynists but I’m sorry to say, plenty of misogynists get laid.

    It also frames sex as being the rightful reward for meeting the bare minimum standards of being a decent human being, a view shared by… incels.

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      Which on the face of it is also untrue; plenty of abusive assholes are in intimate relationships. Incels don’t meet any other standard either though