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  • AZX3RIC@lemmy.worldtoComic Strips@lemmy.worldMovie Review
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    6 days ago

    Nobody hates Star Wars more than a Star Wars fan.

    The sequels had such a good opportunity but wasted it with over correcting.

    I really enjoyed the point in Episode 8 that Rey was unimportant, I thought it could have opened up the whole universe. Instead we had to be angry about everything and the on the nose fan service in Episode 9 went way too far the other direction.





  • I worry that my wife will feel she’s having to be a parent to me more than a partner, I bring it up when I’m feeling like I’ve put a lot on her shoulders and we have good communication.

    One thing she said really helped her understand was the book “Is it you, me, or ADHD?” Specifically, there’s a line in there that essentially says asking a person with ADHD to focus better is like asking someone to take off their glasses and just see better.

    From experience, when there’s problems in a relationship, it’s hard to be positive and the more you tiptoe around the person or argue the easier it becomes to fall into that void and soon it’s just a snake eating its own tail, no matter how much love you have for the other person. It’s very hard to break that cycle and keep up the energy.

    As for becoming more of an adult, habits are huge for me so creating ones that will work for you is the place to start. The hardest thing for me to break was being sure I’d remember a thing this time! Now, if I have something to remember later, I grab my phone and type it into a note app. Then when I remember I’m forgetting something, I know to check my notes. Or, the other big one, asking Google to remind me of things. “Hey Google, remind me at 3pm tomorrow that I need to call the doctor” and then I put it out of my mind until the notification pops up on my phone the next day and I remember to thank past me for making things easier for present me.

    And now the hardest bit I have: being in a relationship where you’re taking care of the person is hard. I was in one back in my youth and as soon as I knew the person was going to be ok I knew I was done. I spent so much time making sure they were ok that when they were I realized there was nothing left for me in it. I think it’s ok to ask that question, no out of anger but from maturity. Sometimes drama is attractive and could be a reason someone stays. Objectively, do either of you feel the need to go on? Of you weren’t married do either of you feel like you would shake hands and walk away? Don’t get stuck in an emotional sunk cost fallacy, neither of you deserve that.

    Good luck.







  • Having gay friends taught me so much about this and why drug use is a big problem.

    I can’t imagine having to play a character everyday instead of being myself and the mental toll that would take, looking for any kind of escape from that makes sense.

    Stay strong my friends.