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  • I think that some 1980s and 1990s fantasy like The Mists of Avalon and a sprawling unfinished series has the “women are magical, men are not” trope. The author of Mists covered up for a pederast. I did not know this idea also comes up in Satanism.

    Some forms of sex magic have the idea that men need a female ritual partner to be complete, which echos Scott Aaronson’s idea that he needs a woman to bear his babies to be complete and in a just world he would be the chief rabbi and the peasants and craft workers would give him their prettiest daughter.

    Someone called Lennox posted some thoughts on “ideological drift” or Of Marx and Moloch where he seems to say that his time in Effective Altruism was channelling his frustration that he had not pair-bonded yet. Even though he sees many problems with EA, like the gigantic probabilistic models with incredible numbers of assumptions layered on assumptions which can only ever approve of a limited range of interventions, he still seems to think their approach is right.

    Someone shared a list of incidents at these parties with me but I don’t have the link handy and I would be uncomfortable posting it anyways. Right now we have the stories by people close to Aella that they are responsible and fun, and the Buddhist poster who says there are drugs and unclear boundaries. I would not recommend that anyone explore risky things with our friends.

    Edit, was the sprawling series Wheel of Time?

    Edit, Lennox’ post features Bob Jacobs in the comments politely explaining that Effective Altruists don’t understand socialism and are very open to race pseudoscience/HBD and hostile to arguments like “a variety of studies show that cooperatives are more effective than hierarchical corporations, and EA orgs could easily be structured as coops”


  • Back and forth a few years ago on the SlateStarCodex subredit, roughly:

    Scott Alexander: Bay Area rationality is wonderful, we have foundations and group homes and jolly social activities and a Solistice ritual and even “Reciprocity and Propinquity: two different rationalist dating/matchmaking services”

    Rando:

    I don’t know, I live in a nice community in a different city where people I know have lots of Shabbat dinners, choirs, board game nights, discussions, etc. And zero people I know have joined a cult, and one person I know has developed psychosis, but she had a family history of psychosis, starting having symptoms in early adulthood, and pretty quickly went on antipsychotics and got a lot better.

    Is it just that California attracts weird shit and if you put people in California, whatever they’re already doing will get culty?

    Alexander: base rates! how do your demographics compare to ours?

    Rando:

    Probably similar size and age? Nearly everyone I knew has parents who are teachers/lawyers/doctors/therapists/etc, so I guess upper middle class according to that book you wrote about a while ago.

    It’s not like everyone’s doing great, lots of people have depression and anxiety and probably smoke more weed than is good for them. Most of those people already had those problems from their adolescence.

    But our rates of weird problems, like multiple people with overlapping psychoses tied to some guy, are low.





  • Some thoughts.

    Paschal Beverly Randolph is a curious character.

    Emily Nagoski writes that she still meets undergraduates who think partners should have simultaneous orgasm like Randolph recommends.

    Napoleon Hill’s 1937 Think and Grow Rich has a chapter on channeling your sexual energy.

    Someone called Mitch Horowitz spoke about sex magic at Hereticon, an event where Aella spoke about her kink events. Aella is definitely woo-curious.

    Your take on sex magic reminds me of the Taoist version (I think the Indian version is more about joyfully breaking taboos- I don’t know if Aella knows she is following the Left-Hand Path of Vamachara or if she is a natural like REH’s Salome).

    I find that the ways American kinksters talk about sexuality are a mixed bag, but kink practices seem good harm reduction. The one Bay Area kinkster I talked to had never heard of the Rationalists until I asked. I think any reasonably experienced Bay Area kinkster who heard the story would advise a young person to avoid our friends.

    I would not underestimate how much one person with money and extroversion can influence Bay Area rationalist culture just by organizing events. Most Rats seem too scared of the outside world to go to a munch or a dance club where they might meet people with sawdust on their clothes and people who work in warehouses, and people who have punched a Nazi. If the sex parties in your community are rape-themed, a lot of men will decide they are interested in rape play (maybe obtaining some Viagra and some drugs that reduce inhibitions). So I think Aella organizes these events because she likes to be ravaged and because it lets her manipulate and corrupt people. TvTropes tells me that Project Lawful has a theme of the evil nation using BDSM to corrupt the Dominant hero.

    Nothing that they have shared sexually is uncommon, but getting mild-mannered geeks to effuse about the house parties with a sexual free-for-all and the capture-the-flag games where if you capture the other side’s women you get a sexual forfeit is. Those are unusual ways to work through these desires, and most people into things that risky keep it private.







  • An Aella-curious blogger in SoCal has noticed something:

    But what I find more interesting than broadly “weird sex” is the specific interest in BDSM, kink and particularly full-contact CNC; a relatively common fantasy in individuals, but one I’ve never seen such widespread community interest in outside the Bay Area.

    Kink and power-play are practices of manufactured risk, with CNC clocking at a more intense point on the same spectrum. The idea that many of these people are devoting their 9-5s and beyond to eliminating the ultimate consequence (death), only to go home and collectively play-pretend violence (scaffolded with extensive rules and consent forms) is fascinating, and- to me- makes complete sense.

    The rationalist interest in manufacturing risk is the direct byproduct of their commitment to flushing it out.

    The blogger attended Aella’s SlutCon. I don’t know if she knows that many of our friends have problems with consent as most of us understand it (their understanding is more “if they are old enough to sign the contract, and they sign, that is on them”).