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  • That’s the universal human experience. Listen to every marginally famous person and they will tell you that a single negative comment feels like it weighs more than 100 positive ones. Then factor in that people who disagree feel compelled to voice their opinion while those who agree often silently nod to themselves and move on. So the 100 positive comments are likely representative of 500 people who agree but don’t say anything.

    So far, you seem to be doing well. Don’t let a couple of the haters get to you.

    Of course, if a pattern appears of many comments criticizing the same thing, then you can think about if there’s something you should change about your behavior. But even then, the change should come from your own realization that you want to change something, not from a desire to appeal to the faceless mass of terminally online weirdos.



  • From your other posts, I guess you are around 18 and this is your first long-term relationship. If that’s the case, don’t worry too much about it. Don’t expect your first relationship to last forever. Or your second. Or third. Enjoy what you have for as long as it lasts but don’t be afraid to move on when either of you becomes uncomfortable with it. If you treat every relationship as if it must last forever, you won’t recognize the signs if something develops in the wrong direction and you risk locking yourself into something you don’t want, just because you don’t realize that you have other options.

    Breakups hurt like hell but they also help you grow. With each one you learn something about yourself, your life goals and what you like and dislike in a partner. I’m in my late 30s now and if you count everything that lasted longer than a year, I’m in my third long-term relationship right now, with a hand full of shorter ones in between. The longest one lasted for about seven years and ended because we figured out that our plans for the future had changed in a way that no longer fit together. Breaking up was the right choice and maybe we should have done it a bit earlier but at the same time, I’m grateful for every single day we had and regret nothing.

    So in short: see where the journey goes. Be open-minded either way. Maybe you’ll stay together for another month, another year or another decade. Enjoy each other for as long as you’re both happy but don’t be afraid of ending things when you’re not.




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    Fascists cosplaying as Christians? If they had ever opened a bible, they might have noticed that one of the gospels’ most important message is loving your neighbors. Not just your cis white hetero normative neighbors, all of them. Even those who might not follow all the rules should be treated with compassion, not hate.

    I’m not a practicing Christian by any measure but I think the world would be a far better place if self-declared Christians actually read their fancy book instead of blindly repeating something they heard from a TV preacher.

    Edit: there also seem to be huge regional differences in interpretation. Protestant churches in Germany allow gay and trans people not only to participate and get married but even to become pastors. A couple of churches (but certainly not all of them) fly pride flags outside to signal that if God made you queer, you’re more than welcome. The Catholics are slowly coming to the same conclusion but I figure they might still need a decade or two.





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    I’m still baffled by the fact that for most US citizens, a drivers license is the only government ID they have. It’s not that hard to issue an ID card to everyone and when everyone is required by law to have one, it’s way harder for rogue lawmakers to take it away.

    Here in Germany we’ve had mandatory ID for decades and it works really well. Even if our government suddenly decided that being trans isn’t acceptable anymore, the worst that would happen ID-wise is that your card shows your deadname (gender isn’t listed explicitly). Sure, that sucks (a lot!) but at least it doesn’t take away people’s ability to vote or otherwise identify themselves.




  • I warn about AI. I don’t care about AGI (yet) because we are far from it.

    I’m worried about (in no particular order):

    • Software companies amassing technical debt because AI-generated code gets used without proper review
    • Massive security problems in critical infrastructure, for the exact same reason
    • Cost savings being used to make the rich richer while the people who used to do the work are just fired
    • Companies forcing AI into every single product even if it doesn’t make sense, just to make their shareholders happy
    • Rapidly increasing prices of RAM, SSDs, HDDs, graphics cards and consequently pretty much all electronic devices
    • The environmental impact because companies would rather build new power plants than optimize AI for efficiency
    • A lack of education about the limitations of current implementations. People tend to feed every question they have into ChatGPT and trust the results even when they’re completely incorrect
    • The inherent privacy nightmare that comes from funneling that much data into a centralized service

    Nothing about this is small or cute.

    I would be totally fine with something that I can supervise and that can run locally on my laptop without cooking it and doubling my energy bill. Also an economy where productivity gains benefit the workers, not the CEO. If I can do the same work in half the time, let me have the rest of the day off at full pay instead of doubling my workload and firing half your staff.



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    Wäre es gut gewesen, die Gemeinden, die die Strom- und Wasserkosten für den Spabereich übernehmen, darüber zu informieren? Bestimmt.

    Aber daraus jetzt so ein Theater zu machen, finde ich dann doch ziemlich unangebracht. Die Leute, die da arbeiten, machen wortwörtlich einen der beschissensten Jobs der Welt und haben es sich mehr als verdient, im Anschluss sauber und entspannt nach Hause zu gehen. So wie die Kommission damit umgeht, muss man nicht lange überlegen, warum das geheim gehalten wurde.
























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