Yes, that’s correct. While I dont use Twitter or Facebook, I don’t subscribe to every community on Lemmy, and in the communities i do subscribe to, I don’t open every post – least of all the ones i actively don’t want to see the content of. It’s very easy to simply not read the things I have no interest in seeing, and if I do happen across a discussion I’m uninterested in, I realize ky mistake and close it.

This really isn’t rocket science, dude. Have some personal responsibility for your media diet and stop worrying about everyone else’s behavior. It’s a far less stressful way to live.

Yes, of course most people have things they dont want to read a post about. The way they accomplish that is by not clicking links to discussions they have no interest in. Maybe we should consider that an option instead of one population exerting control over what another population occupying the same space can say in such a broad way?

Counterpoint:

In my experience, the only people concerned with “keeping politics out” of a space are people who don’t belong to politicized groups or hold politicized identities (thus affording them the comfort to not pay attention to politics or discuss it), and the majority of the time it’s because they themselves hold “political opinions” that would get their nose broken if they said them without a keyboard to hide behind. I’m not super comfortable with capitulating to that crowd, especially when the rules would more often punish people talking about their experiences than aren’t the cisheteronormative default.

Overly harsh? Maybe. But if I’m trapped in this political moment, I want to be able to discuss what that means for personal life, and that includes how personal politics can interact with sex ajd relationships.

I don’t mind either to be honest. People are pretty in many color schemes.

First time? Negative. We were both teenagers with questionable diets. His was overly salty and he said mine was bitter. Still hot though, and i actually kind of liked the smell and texture. I still hook up with him sometimes and we both taste much better 15 yesrs later lmao.

Having both a male and female FWB.

Happy to be a beneficiary of your boredom!

A couple of things come to mind, but one of the biggest is when they aren’t afraid to geek out about their thing. I meet someone very into…idk model trains, and seeing their enthusiasm about it will definitely start to make me more interested in them. It won’t necessarily attract me on its own but it can be the thing that pushes me over the edge. In hindsight this might be why I keep hooking up with the neurospicy crowd without intending to.

Girls wearing “boy” clothes.

Boys wearing weather inappropriate basketball shorts. Doubly so with skate type shoes (Vans, Fallen, Etnies, etc). Idk maybe my ideal male style is stuck in 2007.

Just generally people cooler than me, which isnt a high bar to clear lol.

I think I would have to call my penis “fine.” I do wish I wasn’t circumcised, though. As far as confidence, I would say overall yes. I’m more concerned with knowing how to use it than with the hardware itself.

For sure it’s my nipples. If you’re trying to get me in the mood, though, kiss my shoulders.

I meant to circle back around to this but that’s fascinating. It’s totally possible some of the people I’ve noticed a scent on have been wearing some kind of fragrance. I’m so used to them being overbearing or chemically that maybe I’ve missed some really subtle ones.

Now that you’ve defined laundry musk too, I have definitely smelled that before. I’d have said it was a little…antiseptic, maybe? Almost like a hospital but not quite.

Hmm, now I should research some of these. Do you know od anything that kind of mimics or accentuates a sort of stereotypical subtle body odor? Nothing overbearing, but like you said, wears down.

A whole new meaning of sex kitten 🤣

Ugh yes, hair on hair does feel nice. And that sensation of deep throating until your nose is buried in their pubes.

Idk, just reminds me that humans are hairy, sweaty, musky, sexy animals. It sounds weird to type it out like that but that shit makes me feral lmao.

That was kind of my question: Why? I understand doing it for personal comfort, but I’ve never understood how shaving became an expectation of mainstream beauty standards, especially for women. Just let people have their own standards, you know?

Agree with you that stubble sucks though, it’s like the worst of both worlds lol. Also doesn’t it get itchy? When I was 16 or 17 growing belly hair for the first time I tried shaving it and it was awful, never done it since. The stubble just ruined me.

It’s a totally valid preference to have, especially considering the sensory angle (hair on the tongue, as you mentioned). I didn’t consider asking about hair on one’s own body, but yeah if you like the feeling of being clean shaven yourself, that probably informs the preference as well. Interesting to think about!

You are! And the bush + pit hair + nipples really accentuate your fit body!

Ugh, yes, I live for that, I wish I got to smell it more often

That’s really interesting! Maybe it is a pheromone thing, haha. I totally get that not quite conscious thing though.

I admit I’m not sure what you mean by “laundry musk.” I shy away from any kind of applied fragrance because they tend to be overwhelming to me (I don’t even really like unscented deodorants becaise they still smell like…idk, lemongrass?), so maybe I’m just unfamiliar with the term.

I feel this, I’m the same way with my partner!

Yeah for me at least, it’s not so much musk as it is some quality that’s almost not even a smell, but just kind of a rich warmth that comes off of some people. Deodorants and colognes kind of obliterate it, which is a shame. It’s hard to describe it, but it just smells very human and comforting.

Not to say smell itself never excites me. I have a friend I go down on occasionally who is festiduously clean, but the way his balls smell when he’s turned on is like catnip for me. Like I can sense how turned on he is by the scent, it’s strange.