From what I’ve looked at, options are basically limited to places you can get permanent residence or citizenship. It’s less like choosing from a wide array of options. There’s basically:

• Ancestry - you mention Dutch, but if you have the privilege of easy ancestry records, you might find something interesting. Many countries open citizenship up if your grandparents are from there, and some are more loose (iirc Croatia and Italy specifically).

• Employment/Skilled labor - most countries have a list of needed skills, and it’s more straightforward to get residency that way. PhD level education and tech focused careers might have luck there. It can’t hurt to look for jobs in a target country just to see. English teaching was (is in some countries?) a path to living outside the country, but I think China at least is more difficult now.

• Education - could you go for a graduate degree in a target country? It might take cash up front, but it has to help with employment there later on. Education would need to be dual language or in English. I believe it’s basically cheaper to study anywhere outside the U$, but I haven’t dug into it too far.

I can’t comment on trans acceptance, but Ireland would be high on my daydream list for ease of assimilation as an Amerikkkan (though they are having a cost of living issue). China would be high for me as well. Smaller EU countries like Slovakia or Portugal look interesting, to be able to live anywhere in the Schengen area.

It’s unbelievably hard to integrate into a foreign society as an immigrant with a language barrier, but it’s definitely possible. Best of luck!

*Eta there’s a points calculator for New Zealand’s Skilled Migrant Resident Visa - that might be a good place to start to get an idea of what other countries might require as well.