From what I’ve looked at, options are basically limited to places you can get permanent residence or citizenship. It’s less like choosing from a wide array of options. There’s basically:

• Ancestry - you mention Dutch, but if you have the privilege of easy ancestry records, you might find something interesting. Many countries open citizenship up if your grandparents are from there, and some are more loose (iirc Croatia and Italy specifically).

• Employment/Skilled labor - most countries have a list of needed skills, and it’s more straightforward to get residency that way. PhD level education and tech focused careers might have luck there. It can’t hurt to look for jobs in a target country just to see. English teaching was (is in some countries?) a path to living outside the country, but I think China at least is more difficult now.

• Education - could you go for a graduate degree in a target country? It might take cash up front, but it has to help with employment there later on. Education would need to be dual language or in English. I believe it’s basically cheaper to study anywhere outside the U$, but I haven’t dug into it too far.

I can’t comment on trans acceptance, but Ireland would be high on my daydream list for ease of assimilation as an Amerikkkan (though they are having a cost of living issue). China would be high for me as well. Smaller EU countries like Slovakia or Portugal look interesting, to be able to live anywhere in the Schengen area.

It’s unbelievably hard to integrate into a foreign society as an immigrant with a language barrier, but it’s definitely possible. Best of luck!

*Eta there’s a points calculator for New Zealand’s Skilled Migrant Resident Visa - that might be a good place to start to get an idea of what other countries might require as well.

Where I was at for a long minute, but… I’ve got too many ancestors buried under this fuck of a nation that will never compensate them. My wings are pinned by the bones of my forebears. They slaved here, they died here; undoubtedly, I will die here the same.

I fucking hate it here, but more importantly I hate being complicit in the crimes of the US government. I would move if I could, throw away my citizenship, just to pull my meager contribution of inflicting suffering on the world. But I’m an idiot who spent the last two decades learning to get good at one very specific thing that my entire career is built on and is only valued in this one corner of the planet. My partner also can only do their job in this state. I foolishly never learned another language despite being raised by a multilingual parent. I trapped myself here and now I’m looking for a way out when it’s too late.

Burger brain disease is just a more advanced stage of capitalism plus settler colonialism, which is practically everywhere to one degree or another (minus settler colonialism in some places). Not to mention the Empire’s influence is everywhere.

If a big concern for you is anti-trans violence, anywhere in East Asia would be much better than the US simply because there’s much less violence in general. I like both mainland China and Taiwan. Taiwan is pretty lgbt friendly but is also pretty anti-communist. I know Chinese has a reputation for being difficult to learn, but I think that difficulty is over stated too

Tbh, I might try moving to a deep blue part of the US. Way easier to culturally assimilate, don’t need to learn a new language

I’ve been spending this year living in different countries for a few months each to see where I want to ultimately end up. Been to Mexico, Japan, and currently Korea. I think Japan is by far the most trans friendly of those three, I met a lot of super cool trans/nb/gender nonconforming people there and the vibes were really good. Ofc I can only speak from second hand experience as a cis guy but it seemed like a really welcoming place overall.

Mexico City has a pretty sizable lgbtq+ community, my trans brother and his husband have lived there for two years with no issues. People are still generally less open about it though and I’d be wary of anywhere outside of CDMX as they tend to be much more catholic/reactionary.

Korea is uhhh not a good place to be a cis woman let alone gay or trans. Some of the men here can be incredibly hostile and outright violent to anyone outside their narrow range of “acceptability”. I’ve had numerous friends get harassed and assaulted by drunk assholes on the street before. 1/10 would not recommend

Taiwan, Vietnam, and Thailand are next up and from what I’ve heard are some of the most trans friendly places in Asia, I can keep you posted on how that pans out lol

Do you speak anything other than english? If you don’t you probably should start there.

Reykjavik Iceland is one of the safest cities in the world. I’d love to move too, but keep my burgers without the land part. When I was there, met a guy from Mexico city that moved for that reason

I don’t know how trans friendly it is, the city is sort of low violence and low animosity in general so it is hard to tell, but Shanghai seems okay.

If you want to assimilate you’d have to learn the language. But if you get stuck in the immigrant circles, very few of them are Americans, they all left after covid and won’t come back.

If you have Irish ancestry you might be able to apply for citizenship. But if you don’t work a tech or pharmacy job you will likely never own a house here

Australia is a shit hole (and it’s jumping from one settler state to another). But it feels less on the brink. Some states like Victoria have trans friendly laws and certain features of our healthcare system being half social democratic, half neoliberal make accessing trans health care easier than say the UK.

Thailand? It’s middle-development so not consumption-oriented.

I had a much longer list before u said trans-friendly. Panamá closer to your home is trans-friendly but getting pretty fancy/capitalist now.

I wanted to leave Burgerland too, but I settled for moving to the Atlantic northeast… and for the most part, it’s been an improvement. Striking a balance between what you can afford for living conditions and being close enough to a less-chuddy urban area like Chicago or NYC where some of those vibes reach you can help too.

Honestly Taiwan is the only place I can think of in Asia - very safe, almost first world living standards (in Taipei at least), Westerner friendly, and the pioneer of LGBT rights in Asia (you really have to hand it to them), if you can look past the possibility of Taiwan being at the crosshair of a future US-China conflict.

Western Europe used to be a decent alternative but by now you probably have already realized that the continent is a sinking ship.

But really, large liberal US cities are still the best if diversity and LGBT friendly are important criteria for you. There is nowhere else like NYC and Chicago in my opinion.

What sort of life are you looking for? Do you want a relatively familiar lifestyle (ie western), English speaking, similar material wealth? Or would you be fine completely changing everything, speaking Spanish or Arabic or Chinese, owning next to nothing, and maybe losing life options but otherwise not being forced into a 9-5 slog.

Europe has a lot of problems, and your experience will vary a lot depending on the country. But it will be an easier transition for an American compared with idk, Honduras or China. And although Europe sucks in a lot of ways, it is better in certain key areas. More walkable cities, little to no second amendment gun nuts, more consumer protections, more vacation, etc. Of course as a tankie I understand the political and economic limitations of Europe, but practically speaking it is not a bad option for an American.

Australia fits some of your criteria, but is heading toward full on burgerlandia. It’s currently better at least. Less overtly violent. Transphobia never took off as a political wedge nearly as much as elsewhere, though it is still present.

Though we might be the Ukraine in a China-US conflict soon so that wouldn’t be fun