• Pons_Aelius@kbin.social
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        9 months ago

        You sound like you have a good relationship with your parents, many don’t.

        You can be there for them when they need you without putting up with the anti-vax ravings you mentioned. It is called setting boundaries.

        You do what you think is right but also understand that is not a universal thing for all people.

        • i_have_no_enemies@lemmy.worldOP
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          You sound like you have a good relationship with your parents

          not really.

          i think it is best to minimize contact but not keep null, since these kind of people are self destructive.

          that’s the only reason i stayed , for their health issues.

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            What about your health? Your mental health in particular.

            Your parents raising you is not something you owe them for. You didn’t choose to exist; they chose that for you. Raising you is the bare minimum they can do after making a choice like that. And now that you are older, you can reflect on the manner in which you were raised and decide what your relationship with them needs to look like so you can keep your sanity.

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        9 months ago

        I’ve noticed my parents have reverted to basically defiant teenagers.

        My mom can’t keep a basic job and lives in a camper. I’ve been sending her $1k+ a month to keep her fed and off the streets. My dad left and disappeared for 3 years while he ran around doing weird shit. He’s kept a steady job but found another younger family. Now he’s just a distant acquaintance. When i left home 10+ years ago they had a 3000sqft ranch house, pretty well put together, retired after 20yrs in the USAF. That house turned into an episode of hoarders, particularly with animals. Piss and shit everywhere, floors were torn down to the plywood, walls soaked in piss, that weird “smoker dust” hanging off the popcorn ceiling, unknown number of feral cats took over the basement. She lived there without paying the mortgage for years and years and finally got evicted a couple years ago… I would fucking kill to have a $1300 mortgage on a 3k sqft 1acre property. My rent for 900sqft is almost double. It’s sickening she let it go like that. This all happened around 2015… hmm

        It really sucks knowing that if shit hits the fan for any of us (their kids) we have zero safety net to fall back on.

      • Rbnsft@lemm.ee
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        9 months ago

        Nope they chose to get a child. You dont have to Do anything for them.