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eh, it’s hardly isolated to china, people are jerks everywhere. the only things that change are the cultural mores and tropes.
sorry humans are like this bro.
Understandable, as Asian people don’t seem to age until they are like 60 at which point they instantly turn into looking like 90.
That’s just an online stereotype.
Stereotypes are based on observable real events. They are not randomly made up.
Correction: stereotypes are based on “kernels of truth” which may or may not be observable real events. These kernels of truth can come from fictitious or non fictitious sources.
Stereotypes are peer reviewed scientific observations
Or
Stereotypes are just made up by a person very likely as a joke and people of very high intelligence parrot them without any critical thinking and laugh like hyenas at their ability to accurately repeat words
I’ve always wondered if that had something to do with the cultural revolution in China in the late '60s early '70s. Like was there something about living in or before that time that made you look older as you aged? And maybe the people born well after that time just weren’t under that kind of stress and ended up looking younger.
I can only speak for myself, but I don’t mind being called “old” at age 60, because I’d rather be old than dead. “Old” means I’m still alive and kicking, and not everyone gets to be old. I am old, at least the accusation is true. Also, I feel like I finally fully understand my parents, though they both died years ago.
That’s funny-as-hell: whatever culture my soul/continuum’s previous human-category-life was in, being called young was an insult.
I’ve never understood why anybody would want to be “young” instead of “old”, because when you’re old, you’ve outgrown foolish-nonunderstanding/ignorance…
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Schrodinger’s age: It can be both a complement and insult until you observe their intentions.
Yeah I suppose thats my question, is it like in the U.S. it can be a little minefield implying someones wizened or experienced without being old? Like the trap of of you know so much because you’ve been around, than just calling someone old?
Gonna keep this in my pocket until next time one of my Asian friends asks if I’m gaining weight.
In Japan, it’s common to hear comments on weight and such. Pressure to conform and, sometimes, genuine concern about health. I think aging is unavoidable so it makes it less of a target. Even calling someone tired-looking can be an insult here if done in the wrong way (despite a greeting being お疲れ様です which is often used)
Oh yeah, what about the fat thing? Is it about endearment, or is Chinese culture just ‘edgy’ like that?
Idk. But I remember my mom calling a 肥仔 in a light-hearted tone and I sort of felt the endearment… like my first instinct was oh mom’s teasing me again, like I didn’t feel offended at all, just annoyed that it become my nickname. If I had to make a comparison: I guess it’s sort of like calling a fat cat a “Chonker”
I wasn’t even that fat by American standards lol, literally at the time, in school there were kids bigger than me in the same grade.
One is in your control. The other is not.
Not being short… although I guess you could get that bone-breaking leg surgery that makes you slightly taller. 😅
