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minus-squareEelBolshevikism [none/use name]@hexbear.netlinkfedilinkEnglisharrow-up19·4 months agoIf they were so exceptional their exceptionality would be obvious without being lauded for it
minus-squarepeeonyou [he/him]@hexbear.netlinkfedilinkEnglisharrow-up16·edit-24 months agoMy dad told me this when I was a kid and I told him I was so smart because I got all As in school without even trying. He cut me off and said “truly smart people don’t have to tell others they’re smart”. Popped my ego balloon in an instant and he was right.
minus-squareEelBolshevikism [none/use name]@hexbear.netlinkfedilinkEnglisharrow-up18·edit-24 months ago truly smart people don’t have to tell others they’re smart There are situations where this isn’t true, especially if you’re neurodivergent or something where people just assume you’re stupid Edit: also the phrase de-normalizes being confident in yourself which seems unhealthy
minus-squareGaia [She/Her]@lemmygrad.mllinkfedilinkEnglisharrow-up2·4 months agoDef happens all the time with my interviews. The IT world in my area is filled with people who think I joined the field for the meme, or because I just looked up a list of good-paying jobs
minus-squaresquidlar [it/its]@hexbear.netlinkfedilinkEnglisharrow-up2·4 months agoyes & no. if someone assumes you’re a dumbass, saying “I am very intelligent actually” is unlikely to help. But you shouldn’t be afraid to prove it.
minus-squarewhogivesashit@lemmygrad.mllinkfedilinkEnglisharrow-up2·4 months agoHe is right, but I’m not gonna lie that hurted me a little from all the way over here.
If they were so exceptional their exceptionality would be obvious without being lauded for it
My dad told me this when I was a kid and I told him I was so smart because I got all As in school without even trying.
He cut me off and said “truly smart people don’t have to tell others they’re smart”.
Popped my ego balloon in an instant and he was right.
There are situations where this isn’t true, especially if you’re neurodivergent or something where people just assume you’re stupid
Edit: also the phrase de-normalizes being confident in yourself which seems unhealthy
Def happens all the time with my interviews. The IT world in my area is filled with people who think I joined the field for the meme, or because I just looked up a list of good-paying jobs
yes & no. if someone assumes you’re a dumbass, saying “I am very intelligent actually” is unlikely to help.
But you shouldn’t be afraid to prove it.
He is right, but I’m not gonna lie that hurted me a little from all the way over here.