That’s it. Our instance requires us to stop responding if you explicitly ask us to. It’s right here buried in our Code of Conduct
Any discussions may be opted out of by disengaging.
In the past, this rule has only applied to the specific user you say it to. I’d like to suggest going forward that if someone on another instance uses it, we treat it as applying to all of us.
Unfortunately this rule wasn’t communicated clearly before, so I’m making this post for visibility.
Edit: As the comments clarify, this has to be done in good faith, typically just a one word “disengage” comment. If you add more stuff to the discussion and then say “disengage” at the end, you’re not disengaging, it’s a way to put a stop to a toxic argument not to get the last word in.
It would but in practice it far more often than not is some epic zinger then “disengage.”
“You have spent this entire conversation being wrong and evil. Now that I’ve proven that FACT using indisputable deductive logic, you’re trying to ad hominem me, which I do NOT take lightly. You are a coward and a simpleton. I am disengaging now. Do NOT reply to me or you WILL be in violation of Hexbear CoC Section I, subsection r. An authoritarian like yourself should know something about respecting rules, but somehow I doubt you will. I repeat. DISENGAGE. DISENGAGE FROM ME. CEASE AND DESIST. DISENGAGE YOU FUCKING COWARD. DIS. EN. GAGE.”
-someone who used a slur about 20 comments earlier
We could lean hard into the “has to be in good faith” clause to put them in the ultimatum of “this will only work if you resist your impulse to be an asshole”