Folks, it’s no good

The dating apps, folks, we all hate them. They’re no good. No good!

This loneliness thing? It’s a problem. More and more folks are saying it

Depression? Get rid of it, I say

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  • Stoneykins [any]@hexbear.net
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    2 months ago

    Here’s the trick that works for me

    Develop anger issues

    Learn to manage them as well as you can

    Harbor intense feelings of unresolved anger towards just… Generally everything going wrong.

    Bottle all that shit up inside. It’s best for this stage to have as little autonomy and self determination as possible, so there is a lot of internal pressure built

    Whenever you feel anything, simply wash it away with a quick dose of released anger, like a power washer taking paint off the side of a house

    Keep doing that for years

    ???

    Eventually you’re fine!

    I’m definitely fine and doing ok.

    • lemmyseizethemeans@lemmygrad.ml
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      2 months ago

      1000% plus getting really really angry at inanimate objects helps. Nail hammer got you down? Curse it violently and abandon immediately. Just let the hatred seethe that seems to be te solution

      • queermunist she/her@lemmy.ml
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        2 months ago

        No no no, see, the nail hammer didn’t do anything wrong!

        I did.

        I’m the one that fucked up, so I focus all of my anger on myself. Works every time!

  • Yor [she/her]@hexbear.net
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    2 months ago

    Starting with just friends would probably be best. Have you tried online or offline groups for mutual interests? That’s always been helpful for me

    I’m sorry you’re going through it comrademeow-hug

  • corgiwithalaptop [any, love/loves]@hexbear.net
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    2 months ago

    Many people are saying!

    They come up to me, they say “corgi, how do you handle your depression?” Folks, im here to say, not well all the time. My shell, my big beautiful shell, it’s such a great place to retreat into.

    I can’t keep the bit up fuck it. Sending love and good vibes.

  • pooh [she/her, any]@hexbear.net
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    2 months ago

    Just speaking for myself here, but having a dog is a massive mental health boost for me. There are lots of lonely pups that need to be rescued, so I recommend adopting one (or cat) for anyone who is able.

  • SpiderFarmer [he/him]@hexbear.net
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    2 months ago

    I remember trying Bumble back in the day. I had better luck with Fetlife. Personally you just got better luck in general through just going outside and bumping into people. It’s like that boomer thing about handing out resumes in person, but actually real.

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        2 months ago

        I wish you well. Follow events so you can get to know your community and properly vet each other. From there you can meet some genuinely great people. At the very least, the circles I’ve hung out in have been great.

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      2 months ago

      Personally you just got better luck in general through just going outside and bumping into people.

      I wish I could say that, but I’m 0 for 0 on both online and IRL agony-deep

  • DickFuckarelli [he/him]@hexbear.net
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    2 months ago

    I’m feeling this too. I have no advice. I have some hobbies (working out, bbq, and making beer).

    Thank god my kid loves me and my wife and I are good with each other.

  • Rojo27 [he/him]@hexbear.net
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    2 months ago

    Feel you there. I’ve really been through it lately, just feeling kind of lost. I keep thinking that I might be feeling burned out since I feel fine and even thrive, but then I get home and end up in the soup of all of my negative thoughts. It got worse after this past week when I hung out with a couple of coworkers. Like I had some fun, but it also it felt like I was hanging out with the wrong people. IDK… sounds kind of weird.

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    2 months ago

    Moved to another country, made some friends in college. Finished college, no friends anymore. I literally only talk to people from the other country I left lol I gotta go outside and meet people, but the people I would vibe with don’t go outside like me lmao

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      I gotta go outside and meet people, but the people I would vibe with don’t go outside like me lmao

      This is one of the binds I’m stuck in