@CARCOSA@hexbear.net

can we defed from ponder.cat ?

its a one user instance and the admin is unironically doing this

Remove lemm.ee

While not as openly awful as SJW or similar shitshows, the instance has always had a tendency towards reactionary sentiment and anticommunism, and their users are just awful debate perverts, as examplified by this post where some MRA idiot liberal antifeminist barges into c/traaaaaa and tries to turn a trans debate into “not all men” bs. It’s not the only problematic post in that thread, but the other one has already been removed. This is now the state of our trans comms. This has been going on steadily since federation started and it doesn’t get better, it is the new status quo on hexbear. That’s the reason why this will be my last post under this account, and why i will post not even remotely as often under my new handle.

I know this is still an unpopular opinion around here, but i’m sick of this entire failed federation experiment. You’ve had the mistaken idea that there could be a compromise between keeping the site as a safer space for trans people on one hand and “reaching out to and propagandizing” a couple dozen techbros and a couple hundred redditors on the other. And it really shows when i look at the queer spaces on hexbear, so many trans longtime users on here have massively reduced posting, we’ve gone from being “the most trans inclusive non-trans space on the internet” to “we also have moretankie_egg_irl”. Seriously, that’s what it feels like nowadays to me, there’s a very palpable change in the quality of posts on queer subjects because with the old guard receding, most of them are now made by eggs and closet cases who haven’t yet worked through their internalized transphobia and transmedicalism and are therefore unable to educate others, offer substantial community support, push for actual queer liberation instead of assimilationism and have in-depth discussions about radical views on transness that would be drowned out by the lib shit on reddit.

You can’t build effective, radicalizing queer communities like that. In a structurally queerphobic society, you need not necessarily elders, but users who’ve at least already been through the most pressing struggles baby queers are facing to offer them guidance and help them to be themselves instead of trying to fit into a social structure that rejects them. We used to have that, back in the day threads about coming out or struggling with dysphoria or gender experimentation would have a ton of helpful, supportive comments and now it’s just a bunch of eggs all having the same issue with nobody to show them a perspective not tainted by cisnormativity and internalized transphobia. We’ve gone from being a support structure aimed to build trans resistence to being a circlejerk of trans mysery. Trying to offer advice in such a setting is just such a draining task, i do not feel up to that when it feels as if i have to do it on my own. We’ve lost so much because you just had to federate with places overrun by reddit shitheads. And that’s just a sad thing to say about the first place where i tried out my pronouns. This site was a home for me, it used to literally make me laugh out loud every day, now it’s just a tedious stream of half-decent half shit takes i can’t bring myself to care about. Breaks my fucking heart, but what can you do?

It’s time to move on now. Farewell, comrades.

Copied and pasted from @kristina@hexbear.net 's thread

Defederate programming.dev

I don’t think I really need to explain much, their admins are transphobic.

https://hexbear.net/post/1587342

One branch that ended up getting triggered due to the frontend snowe uses on mobile not showing pronouns (how most instances handle it currently is its appended to the end of the display name but some frontends choose to ignore the display name and just do the username instead)

Ategon, lead admin, refers to a transgender person as ‘triggered’ over the transgender person asking for proper pronoun usage from the other lead admin, snowe. Snowe also complained about that transgender person being offended. Ategon said this in an ‘apology’ post

Textbook

Shit Just Works Programming Lemmee

I must say, however, I would not be sad to see us defed from all but the Grad.

Remove SJW bc its full of fascists and reactionaries.

https://sh.itjust.works/

Also allow me to personally ban them if they cone back :)

IMO !gamedeals@lemmy.zip should be defederated, all of its posts are bot spam

https://hexbear.net/post/913975 Defederate from Lemmygrad

Wasnt aware it was supposed to go here, what is the fediverse comm for?

please just let us defederate from all instances. federation was an idea worth trying but it hasn’t worked out and has made hexbear a worse place

Death to America

szmer.info

This appeared in my feed today. Not sure if they’re marking posts as English or just unspecified but all of their content is in Polish.

What stance should we take on instances that don’t correctly tag language? On one hand, browser translation makes it relatively easy to engage, and more languages especially helps to recruit non-Western-Anglo users. But on the other hand, it seems like a mess if our users can’t control the language of their feeds.

lemmy.world for now, they are already defederated on their end, and according to some comments are possibly working with feds to resolve the CSAM incident that led to closing of comm and rule changes (which is good for finding out who did the terrible thing, but also a risk for anyone federated)

We shouldn’t federate. The community is perfectly fine as is and introducing outside communities will only hurt.

We should explicitly add beehaw to the block list. I know they’ve already blocked us, but I want to see them throw a fit over us blocking them back. It’ll be good dunk tank content