I value personality but I feel like my secret obsession with lady parts would only make others either back away slowly or run to get away from me.

I know that being attracted to them is normal but this feels next level.

Some of the lewd content that I collect is mundane, but some of it is more abstract and involves photographs of furniture, jewellery, desserts, and other things in… “interesting” shapes. Additionally, I do graphic design in my spare time and I have made some unusual creations inspired by lady parts, including a virtual pinball table.

I feel guilty about my obsession, not because it’s sexual, but because it sounds disturbing. Also, I feel like I must be a shallow person who is not interesting for more than five minutes. I certainly have a few other interests, but this secret one is special to me.

Is this an instant turn-off that I should hide as much as possible? I’ve seen jokes ridiculing guys for being breast-obsessed but I am too socially awkward to tell if it is more the obsession itself or the apparent disinterest in both personality and meaningful relationships that turns people off.

Update: I’m surprised at how many comments this thread received and how many users wanted to see my pinball table! I restricted it to private messages partly because I assumed that NSFW images were forbidden here, and partly because I used numerous other artists’ assets without permission (I had not intended to publish it anyway).

That said, a moderator told me that I could share it provided that I marked the topic NSFW and I credited the artists whose work I used. I modified a small part of it based on one of your suggestions. Click here to see it!

    • Berengaria_of_Navarre@lemmy.world
      4·
      17 天前

      That’s how you know that trans men are men. Sometimes I’ll see a video on redgifs of someone going to town on themselves with a dildo and I’ll be like “why do I find this so off-putting?” I take a look at their profile and it’s some dude with a mullet and a pedo-stache.

      • Lobanova@lemmy.blahaj.zoneOPEnglish
        3·
        17 天前

        Penes can be lady parts but they’ve just never really been my bag, regardless of which gender has them. Sorry, dears; it’s nothing personal. Even if I’m picky with my genital preferences, you ladies are still class acts all around and I’d love to be friends with you.

        • alx@piefed.blahaj.zoneEnglish
          11·
          17 天前

          thanks for the clarification. You really meant vulvas when saying “lady parts”. I think most of us would greatly appreciate if we’d avoid those heavy gendered terms for genitals

          • Lobanova@lemmy.blahaj.zoneOPEnglish
            3·
            17 天前

            I… wasn’t just referring to women’s vulvae, and male vulvae don’t do much for me. To be honest, I don’t know how I could rephrase myself delicately and succinctly. Would ‘cis lady parts’ suffice?

            • stray@pawb.social
              5·
              17 天前

              While I’m a single person, I want to reassure you that nothing said in this thread has made me feel uncomfortable regarding my gender or body. I think it’s good to be aware of gendered language, but also that generalizations aren’t necessarily harmful by default and that context matters. This is a community for lesbians and it’s clear you’re referring to women’s genitals. Your explantation of not liking dude vulva makes it extra validating in my opinion.