Lancer is a… weird little guy? I dunno even though I really liked undertale I didn’t really vibe with deltarune and never played past ep1. I do vaguely remember having fun fighting him.
Soooo, uh, yeah, that’s Lancer I guess. I’d love to hear about everybody’s favourite little weirdos.
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negativity, jealosy
Sometimes i cant stand seeing other trans ppls progress photos or happiness/joyposting or selfies, stuff that should be positive and feel-good just makes me jealous and upset. Idk if somethings wrong with my brain, i hate it
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I think if you feel that way, then the best thing you can do is to redirect that energy from a negative direction to a positive one. If you want what they have, then the question is how you can obtain it as well. I don’t think there’s anything wrong with your brain: reframing and rechanneling these emotions is a skill that you can practice.
Sometime the answer is just “time” and you can take comfort that it’s something you can look forward to. Sometime the answer is “effort”. For me, I felt envy when it came to relationships and appearance. I obtained the first by putting myself out there and going through the stress of dating, and for the second I put a lot of practice into makeup and learned a lot about fashion. There are still things that I feel a bit jealous of, like shilouette and voice training: these things are definitely addressable, just harder for me and I know that with effort (and time) they are achievable.
Ty for the helpful reply, rationally i know ur right and i shouldnt compare myself to ppl whove been transitioning for way longer with way more effort than i have, and whove developed their relationships over years and sometimes decades, the idiot part of my brain just keeps telling me theres no hope for me specifically. I am trying/will try to think about it in a more helpful or at least less self-hating way, tho
That’s a problem with social media in general. It makes you negatively compare yourself to others. I have trans friends who are doing very well in their transitioning. I try to overwrite my feelings of jealousy with feelings of happiness for them and their personal transition, but also look at all the progress I have made and how my journey is unique.
Sorry if this is not very helpful advice, this is just my way of dealing with it. I’m new to being transgender, so I can’t really offer much more.
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