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I came so hard I spontaneously started sobbing ??? felt like I had a stroke - wild

anyway, thank you for coming to my TED talk.

    • dandelion (she/her)@lemmy.blahaj.zoneOP
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      26 days ago

      thanks 😊

      my partner said she wanted to take a mental picture of me as I was orgasming and remember it forever, so I suspect she has every intention of repeating her handiwork 😁 (is this real life?)

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          26 days ago

          yeah, I am starting to think that might be true 🫠

          once she kissed me in the kitchen and it felt so good that I started to dissociate 🙈 I am pretty sure my brain has a secret mission to rob me of ever feeling pleasure or happiness, but I’m putting up a good fight now to work against it. Somehow I’ve slipped into this fantasy world, it would be nice if I could actually be here to enjoy it.

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            Have you tried grounding techniques? When you start dissociating, take a slow deep breath, and count 5 things you can see, 4 things you can feel, 3 things you can hear, 2 things you can smell, and 1 thing you can taste. Also your partner sounds like a keeper, you should definitely hold onto her!

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              25 days ago

              we’re celebrating our 13 year anniversary this month, I really don’t know how I got this lucky 😭

              and thanks for the instructions, I’ll try that out and see if it helps - I’ve used grounding techniques in the past but I’ve also struggled to even recognize when I’m dissociating, so it can be hard to tell when something is helping vs not - but I’ll try it anyway.

              One of the grounding exercises I learned about from Peter A. Levine’s Waking the Tiger was something like touching various body parts and using a showerhead to generate sensation and repeating things like “this is my arm” and so on. I’m not sure I ever found that particularly useful, though.