There’s enough documented cases where we KNOW this is the case to think this is likely true for a very large proportion of them. Dick Francis is a major case in point; his wife wrote most of “his” books.

  • DarkCloud@lemmy.worldEnglish
    8·
    26 days ago

    Some pay/benefits via your spouse/partner is probably better than none.

    EDIT: I absent mindedly commented in a womens only community. My bad.

    • ZDL@lazysoci.alOPEnglish
      17·
      26 days ago

      I can think of two things even better:

      1. Getting pay and benefits for your own work instead of through your spouse’s taking credit.
      2. People paying attention to the rules of the group they’re posting in.
      • idiomaddict@lemmy.worldEnglish
        5·
        26 days ago

        I’m always surprised at other users correctly identifying men commenting here. How do you know? Do you tag people or just assume that if they’re an older user and haven’t commented here before, they’re probably not women? Is it the takes?

        To be clear, I’m not complaining, it’s good work! I don’t do it, because I worry about misidentifying users, but I’ve never seen a misidentification here (though I have seen people completely unbelievably pretend to be women in response to getting called out).

        • ZDL@lazysoci.alOPEnglish
          10·
          26 days ago

          I misidentified pretty embarrassingly once; I’m much more careful now than before as a result. But there’s a few things.

          1. A big tell is when people who have never been seen in here before suddenly Have Opinions™. That sparks immediate suspicion. It’s not conclusive, but it’s a flag.
          2. An even bigger tell is that the Opinions They Have™ seem to take the man’s side, or use some argument about “human nature” to put the men in the right and so on.
          3. A lesser tell is there is some wording issues that raise a smaller flag for me.

          But once the tells are there and I start looking, the first place I look is their posting history. A lot of them just flat-out state that they’re dudes in some post or another. Others will mention their wife in one post, then in another post say they’re cis-het. If you’re cis-het and you’ve got a wife, you’re pretty much automatically a dude because of, you know, what ‘cis’ and ‘het’ mean. Also a history of commenting on men’s issues is a big tell.

          And then, if I’m VERY suspicious but still not really certain, I hit the mod log for the user. And there it often comes glaring out. Even if they don’t identify as male in the mod log entries, the nature of their behaviour and what they get modded for often screams “OBVIOUS GUY … AND A COMPLETE DOUCHEBAG TO BOOT!” Things like being banned and having posts deleted for misogyny.

            • ZDL@lazysoci.alOPEnglish
              5·
              25 days ago

              Oh, not all those steps belonged to the guy here, to be clear. I don’t think he’s a misogynist. I just IDed him as a guy pretty quickly. He was so polite about removing himself I don’t want people to think I think he’s misogynistic!