Imagine you have some friends. You like them. No one else knows them. You’ve got an uncle you love because you’ve known him since childhood and he’s sweet but he laughs really loud and you know most people don’t appreciate him. You got any number of other people who you want to be at your wedding but you know that you can’t put them next to ___ because it’ll just be this whole thing.
So what do you do? You put them where they fit!
It’s not about inviting people you don’t like, or marginalizing people you do. It’s about putting people who don’t mind eating dinner together near each other.
It’s not like the table is labeled, it’s just that you can tell which one caught the “didn’t fits”. Sometimes it’s as simple as “every table has someone, their partner, and their cousin/sibling/relative, and one table has the three single cousins who have 3 siblings, and a few random friends”.
Perhaps for those who are self-aware enough to understand their place in life and they have self-confidence but I on the other hand if I were put at the oddball table, which is probably where I’d belong, it would further reinforce my awareness that I’m an outcast & don’t fit in with the normies, further take a toll on my fragile self-esteem and cause sorrow and further reinforce the reason why I prefer never to attend such events anyway haha
Is this really a thing, or just fun material for a fictional comedy story?
Otherwise why would a bride & groom invite people they don’t like?
But if they DO like these people, why marginalize them?
Imagine you have some friends. You like them. No one else knows them. You’ve got an uncle you love because you’ve known him since childhood and he’s sweet but he laughs really loud and you know most people don’t appreciate him. You got any number of other people who you want to be at your wedding but you know that you can’t put them next to ___ because it’ll just be this whole thing.
So what do you do? You put them where they fit!
It’s not about inviting people you don’t like, or marginalizing people you do. It’s about putting people who don’t mind eating dinner together near each other.
It’s not like the table is labeled, it’s just that you can tell which one caught the “didn’t fits”. Sometimes it’s as simple as “every table has someone, their partner, and their cousin/sibling/relative, and one table has the three single cousins who have 3 siblings, and a few random friends”.
Just off the top of my head, these are the things I’ve heard.
Why would Gordon Freeman lie to us
What part of “this is the very best place to be” sounds like a bad thing?
Perhaps for those who are self-aware enough to understand their place in life and they have self-confidence but I on the other hand if I were put at the oddball table, which is probably where I’d belong, it would further reinforce my awareness that I’m an outcast & don’t fit in with the normies, further take a toll on my fragile self-esteem and cause sorrow and further reinforce the reason why I prefer never to attend such events anyway haha