Despite my one moment of sheer misandry, which I apologize for…I love you guys ❤️

I probably can’t offer much in the way of comfort…

NSFW, TMI

…I mean, all I can offer is my body, and I doubt you’d want that :P…

…but I really, truly, honestly appreciate all of you guys. Really 💜

Without men, my life would be pretty boring and honestly pointless. And I don’t just mean for sexual reasons…

NSFW, TMI

…well, the sexual reasons are a big and important part of it too, ngl, but they’re not the only reason.

I see and appreciate you. You matter 🩷
To me. To your families. To everyone here ❤️

This isn’t much comfort, but if any of you guys needs someone to talk to, my Matrix account is:
@horny_miisha:chat.blahaj.zone
Feel free to reach out!

You’re not alone. You’re never alone. I love you guys 💜

  • bimbobear@lemmy.worldEnglish
    3·
    7 minutes ago

    I’m just going to share this here, and it’s entirely anecdotal.

    I’ll put it behind a drop down so read it of your own volition.

    spoiler

    Somehow despite being quite the introvert I have somehow managed to encounter numerous men who have been horrifically abused by the women in their life, myself included. For example one young lad who regularly slept with his own mother, a grandmother who did wildly inappropriate things with her grandkids (hiding candy in her clothing…)

    I lived with emotional abuse from my mother, and a creepy cougar teacher who was far to interested in a younger me.

    Later in life, I had a small group of friends and out of the 4 of them, all 4 had been out right sexually assaulted.

    One guy was roofied at a club by a wannabe dominatrix who didn’t understand BDSM, woke up in her bed chained up.

    Another woke up to an older female cousin raping him while he was sleeping on a couch.

    Then there was the guy who worked in bars, hen parties were a nightmare and plenty of women would get handsy and see nothing wrong with it.

    There’s more but I don’t remember right now, and I don’t want to dig it out.

    So in summary… why am I mentioning this here?

    It’s not to bash anyone, but rather to suggest that just like many guys are told to watch their brothers for abusive behaviour we should encourage women to be aware of the kind of abuse that other women can dish out and intervene if possible.

    Also, if you do try to engage with a guy about his emotional state, do consider that it is extremely common for men to have in the past opened up to a partner only to have it weaponised against him thus making him hyper vigilant about doing so again.

    • ShadowOfMiisha (she/her)@lemmy.blahaj.zoneOPEnglish
      1·
      2 minutes ago

      Oh dear god…
      I’m so sorry you went through that. Honestly that’s terrible and it’s something nobody deserves to go through. I’m so sorry 🫂

      I hope you’re doing at least a bit better. I have my own (serious) issues and I’m trying to get a therapist in the hopes of treating those…

      Again, I’m so sorry you went through that. That’s honestly brutal. Even if this is naive…I sincerely hope we can both get over our traumas. Sorry I can’t offer much support 💙

  • Uriel238 [all pronouns]@lemmy.blahaj.zoneEnglish
    2·
    30 minutes ago

    I really appreciate the message.

    However, I usually associate misplaced apostrophes with folk who express far crueler sentiments.

    There’s no way to get this fixed, is there?

    (Coming from a guy who once misspelled bystanders as bystandards. I am not sin free.)

    • ShadowOfMiisha (she/her)@lemmy.blahaj.zoneOPEnglish
      1·
      9 minutes ago

      However, I usually associate misplaced apostrophes with folk who express far crueler sentiments

      HUH?
      First time I’ve heard of that, sorry

      Probably no way to fix it, apart from screwing around with GIMP for literal hours. And I really don’t feel up to that :P

      (Coming from a guy who once misspelled bystanders as bystandards. I am not sin free.)

      OMG bystandards is so cute tho! That’s like…really fucking cute, omfg. That’s unreasonably cute. You go, king! 💜

  • 0x0@lemmy.zipEnglish
    2·
    37 minutes ago

    …I mean, all I can offer is my body, and I doubt you’d want that :P…

    Those silhouettes lead me to disagree.
    I was gonna downvote this for botting but it seems to be an actual human… or an AI.

    Nice post 👍

  • Jumi@lemmy.worldEnglish
    8·
    2 hours ago

    I got over my depression and trauma and live mostly happily now with friends and family around me.

    There were times when I were prepared to end it all.

    I’m glad I didn’t because the fight in the end was worth it and I wish that everyone gets to see the light at end of the tunnel like I did.

    Never stop fighting, giving up is not an option.

  • The Ramen DutchmanEnglish
    5·
    1 hour ago

    Happy to see this, honestly. I feel this doesn’t get discussed enough! It’s also just hard talking about difficult things if you’ve never done it when you’re young, even if you know you can talk about them now

    Sorry for making a complete U-turn but what’s the cropped off text if I may ask? I’m just really, very curious

  • Triasha@lemmy.worldEnglish
    7·
    2 hours ago

    For all the men reading these comments. My heart goes out to you that are suffering. I’m glad you are still here with us.

  • endless_nameless@lemmy.worldEnglish
    8·
    3 hours ago

    turning 29 imminently… after a lifetime of depression and suicidal ideation, I had multiple life altering tragedies within the same week at age 25. i decided then that if i made it to 30 and still maintained no hope whatsoever for my future and the world’s future, it was time to go. I don’t want to die but life is so miserable. It’s like being on fire.

    • SillyDude@lemmy.zipEnglish
      8·
      2 hours ago

      I was going to do it at 10,000 days of life, had a bullet with that date scratched on it. That day came and went. I have found no new meaning to life, but am still here.

      • The Ramen DutchmanEnglish
        4·
        1 hour ago

        Honestly that counts. And the meaning of life is different for everyone but can just be living and occasionally being in someone else’s

    • FreddiesLantern@leminal.spaceEnglish
      6·
      3 hours ago

      Hey there, I know a comment from a stranger isn’t gonna do much but I sincerily hope things turn around for the better for you.

    • velma@sh.itjust.worksEnglish
      4·
      3 hours ago

      The world is better for you in it, it really is. I’m sorry you’re struggling. It does get better.

    • LemmySuxNow@reddthat.comEnglish
      8·
      2 hours ago

      Famously, the first major legal win for feminism was a man getting custody of his child.

      Its sad that so many men have swallowed the propaganda that feminism is somehow hurting them.

      • velma@sh.itjust.worksEnglish
        7·
        2 hours ago

        Patriarchy absolutely hurts men as well and I don’t want to take away from your comment. I fully support it. And I fully support men revolting against the patriarchy and living how they want to live without the pressure to conform.

        The first major legal win for feminism was about a mother being granted custody because before 1839, fathers were automatically granted custody of their children.

        The Custody of Infants Act of 1839 is often seen as the first feminist legislative victory in a long campaign to reform English marriage laws (Shanley 17, Chase and Levenson 40). While legal scholars have noted instances when a father’s total control over his legitimate children had been limited by judicial rulings prior to 1839 (Abramowicz 1345), the 1839 Act stands as the first major reform to recognize the rights of mothers. The important role played by Caroline Norton in the passage of the Act is also key to recognizing the law as a feminist triumph (Shanley 17).

        Prior to the 1839 Custody of Infants Act, a father had a right to his legitimate children and was automatically granted custody if he and his wife separated for any reason (Bailey 393). Most fathers granted custody or access to the children’s mothers because it was considered ungentlemanly to deny mothers the opportunity to be with their children. Judges could also require a father to grant access or custody to the mother in circumstances in which the children’s welfare would be in jeopardy if they were left with their father. (Bailey 394)

        Source

          • velma@sh.itjust.worksEnglish
            1·
            11 minutes ago

            That is a perfect example of the patriarchy hurting men. Assuming men are the sole and primary earners in the family can lead to discriminatory decisions like this:

            Stephen Wiesenfeld and Paula Polatschek were married in 1970. Polatschek had worked as a teacher for the five years prior to their marriage and continued teaching after they were married. Her salary was the principle source of the couple’s income, and social security contributions were regularly deducted from her salary. In 1972, Polatschek died in childbirth, which left Wiesenfeld with the care of their newborn son. Wiesenfeld applied for social security benefits for himself and his son, and was told that his son could receive them but that he could not. Social Security Act provides benefits based on the earnings of a deceased husband and father that are available to both the children and the widow. The benefits for a deceased wife and mother, however, are only available to the children.

            In 1973, Wiesenfeld sued on behalf of himself and similarly situated widowers. He claimed that the relevant section of the Social Security Act unfairly discriminated on the basis of sex and sought summary judgment. A three-judge panel of the district court granted Wiesenfeld’s motion for summary judgment

            Thanks for bringing it up!!

  • SomGye@sh.itjust.worksEnglish
    27·
    6 hours ago

    Thank you for your kindness 🙏🙏 on average, men go their entire lives without a single compliment and are expected to silently carry burdens and never show a moment of sensitivity or “weakness”.