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  • Infamousblt [any]@hexbear.net
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    5 months ago

    The easy way to make it gayer is for all the straights to just admit that gender is a spectrum and that they are not solely attracted to one full extreme of that spectrum and are instead attracted to a portion or a majority of that spectrum. Since this is objectively the correct way to look at gender and sexuality, congrats straights I just made you all queer. Or you gotta admit you have lib views on gender. Pick carefully frida-commie

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      “Male” and “female” aren’t single points at the extreme ends, they’re spectrums themselves. Most straight (and exclusively gay) people’s attraction lies well within one of those, usually not even the entirety of them.

      Like think about a straight guy attracted to the most stereotypically feminine women vs a straight guy attracted to tomboys. They’re both just straight. Or a straight woman attracted to buff manly guys vs a straight woman attracted to soft nerdy guys. Still both just straight. (Obviously I’m going on stereotypes here, but those kind of people absolutely exist.)

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        If that tomboy uses they them pronouns and that is literally the only difference, is said tomboy chaser still straight?

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          5 months ago

          said tomboy chaser

          How does being attracted to tomboys automatically make someone a “chaser”? Who is allowed to be attracted to them without being a “chaser”?

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            So you think a straight dude dating a non binary person is a situation where the dude can stay straight while also affirming the gender identity of said enby? One of those things isn’t possible. Either the dude isn’t straight or the enby isn’t enby. Straight means your attraction follows the binary, straight folks cannot be attracted to folks outside of the binary and still be straight. These things are by definition incompatible.

            Dudes who are “straight” but date non binary AFAB folks anyway are some of the worst dudes on the planet and I will kick every single one of them in the balls until they admit they’re wrong either way. They can stay straight but then they gotta climb back into their Gender Trad closet and shut the fuck up forever. Or they can admit that “being straight” is fucking dumb and doesn’t exist in a world where gender is a complex and ever changing spectrum and they can join us in the modern age.

            • BountifulEggnog [she/her]@hexbear.net
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              I see your point about people who data/would date enbies being pan (edit: wrong word), and that makes sense to me. My only thought was that (many) lesbians date enbies, and that feels the same to me (just depending on how you identify yourself, but the direction of your attraction is the same as a straight guy).

              There are straight guys who have hookups with cis guys shrug-outta-hecks that seems like even more cognitive dissonance to me. but if their partners are fine with it shrug-outta-hecks I don’t really care how someone wants to label their sexuality. I know a lesbian who’s in a long term relationship with a guy. yaknow, whatever.

              Obviously if their partner isn’t okay with it then yea, let’s kick him in the balls though.

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                I do, because it matters. To say you’re straight but then be attracted to or date or hook up with people that fall outside of the gender binary that literally defines said straight identity is just another way to erase the identities of folks who don’t conform to the gender binary. The only reason straight folks who do shit like that identify as straight are because they’re too cowardly and / or hopped up on homophobia to admit maybe they aren’t as straight as they think. It’s highly highly problematic and fuck every single person who does this.

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                  Maybe I’m doing too much talking (and probably not doing a good job at explaining myself anyway). How would you label a guy who is attracted to (some) women and (some) enbies?