I value personality but I feel like my secret obsession with lady parts would only make others either back away slowly or run to get away from me.
I know that being attracted to them is normal but this feels next level.
Some of the lewd content that I collect is mundane, but some of it is more abstract and involves photographs of furniture, jewellery, desserts, and other things in… “interesting” shapes. Additionally, I do graphic design in my spare time and I have made some unusual creations inspired by lady parts, including a virtual pinball table.
I feel guilty about my obsession, not because it’s sexual, but because it sounds disturbing. Also, I feel like I must be a shallow person who is not interesting for more than five minutes. I certainly have a few other interests, but this secret one is special to me.
Is this an instant turn-off that I should hide as much as possible? I’ve seen jokes ridiculing guys for being breast-obsessed but I am too socially awkward to tell if it is more the obsession itself or the apparent disinterest in both personality and meaningful relationships that turns people off.
Update: I’m surprised at how many comments this thread received and how many users wanted to see my pinball table! I restricted it to private messages partly because I assumed that NSFW images were forbidden here, and partly because I used numerous other artists’ assets without permission (I had not intended to publish it anyway).
That said, a moderator told me that I could share it provided that I marked the topic NSFW and I credited the artists whose work I used. I modified a small part of it based on one of your suggestions. Click here to see it!
If you describe genitals with gender terms, it will harm trans people. A trans woman with a penis has “lady parts”, since she’s a lady. It would be better in any way to describe genitals with their actual name: “clitoris”, “vulva”, “penis” (also this can also cause genital dysphoria, it’s still far better)
tbf, they didn’t specify what “lady parts” entailed. Lady penis is not the same as man penis, nor is man vagina the same as lady vagina.
That’s how you know that trans men are men. Sometimes I’ll see a video on redgifs of someone going to town on themselves with a dildo and I’ll be like “why do I find this so off-putting?” I take a look at their profile and it’s some dude with a mullet and a pedo-stache.
I mean, you’re right, it’s not specified, so let’s ask OP what they meant by this
Penes can be lady parts but they’ve just never really been my bag, regardless of which gender has them. Sorry, dears; it’s nothing personal. Even if I’m picky with my genital preferences, you ladies are still class acts all around and I’d love to be friends with you.
…so what about man minge?
Not for me, sorry.
ETA: If you are asking if I deny their existence, I don’t. Male cunts are valid. They don’t do much for me, but that’s perfectly fine; they’re still valid.
No apologies necessary. I also don’t like man minge. I’m quite fond of girl dick though.
That’s perfectly fine! You do you.
thanks for the clarification. You really meant vulvas when saying “lady parts”. I think most of us would greatly appreciate if we’d avoid those heavy gendered terms for genitals
I… wasn’t just referring to women’s vulvae, and male vulvae don’t do much for me. To be honest, I don’t know how I could rephrase myself delicately and succinctly. Would ‘cis lady parts’ suffice?
While I’m a single person, I want to reassure you that nothing said in this thread has made me feel uncomfortable regarding my gender or body. I think it’s good to be aware of gendered language, but also that generalizations aren’t necessarily harmful by default and that context matters. This is a community for lesbians and it’s clear you’re referring to women’s genitals. Your explantation of not liking dude vulva makes it extra validating in my opinion.