That’s not what I said. People are going to have different opinions about this because it’s a complex issue. I’m not trying to gatekeep or silence anyone, and I’m asking that you not assume the worst of me simply because we disagree.
I think I’m going to step away from c/womensstuff. I left this topic feeling hurt and misunderstood in a community that I’ve previously always trusted.
I apologize, I didn’t realize I was speaking in womensstuff. I shouldn’t even be here. I hope you are able to find your trust in this community again in the future; there are many good people here. Goodbye, and I hope to see you around elsewhere.
Whoa. No reason to back away, I certainly did not wish for you to feel you need to silence yourself and for sure I do not assume the worst of anyone until I get to know them.
If my comment came across as an attack, that is not how I meant it.
I posit that everyone has a viewpoint that should be allowed to be expressed.
We can read/listen to what someone has to say then decide - yea or nay - that it’s something we agree or disagree on.
As a woman who’s been told to be silent about topics that have impacted my life (medical issues) because I haven’t been “educated” in the subject, (as if my own horrorshow medical experience wasn’t an education enough? Yaaah, fuck that!) I am duty-bound to step in and say “Hold up a second there…”
…and I did.
Stick around, you’re alright, and all I ask is that you be open to being more open.
This is an explicitly trans inclusive support thread. It’s meant as a strong, visible sign that trans women are welcome and included and get to talk about their own experiences in this space.
But if you look at the replies, over half of them are people arguing, debating and pushing back against that, all saying in one way or another that no, trans people don’t get to define their own experiences on their own terms.
As someone who has been sidelined and “educated” by people trying to tell you they know your experiences better than you do, I think you should stop and consider why you chose this thread of all places to push back against trans folk…
I’m sorry, but I don’t see how I’m being closed-minded. All I did was express my opinion and got dogpiled, then was told I’m silencing others with my opinion. That doesn’t feel good. I’m sorry that disclosing my being personally uncomfortable with being continually reminded of my biological sex is a censoring act; again I know this is a complicated issue with multiple perspectives. Respectfully, I’m doing what I feel I need to do by stepping away. Feel free to reply if you’d like, but I need to be done now.
Oh, not me. It’s about limiting a conversation to singular experiences, as if sexism within the medical industry doesn’t exist for women OR trans women.
That’s not what I said. People are going to have different opinions about this because it’s a complex issue. I’m not trying to gatekeep or silence anyone, and I’m asking that you not assume the worst of me simply because we disagree.
I think I’m going to step away from c/womensstuff. I left this topic feeling hurt and misunderstood in a community that I’ve previously always trusted.
I apologize, I didn’t realize I was speaking in womensstuff. I shouldn’t even be here. I hope you are able to find your trust in this community again in the future; there are many good people here. Goodbye, and I hope to see you around elsewhere.
Whoa. No reason to back away, I certainly did not wish for you to feel you need to silence yourself and for sure I do not assume the worst of anyone until I get to know them.
If my comment came across as an attack, that is not how I meant it.
I posit that everyone has a viewpoint that should be allowed to be expressed.
We can read/listen to what someone has to say then decide - yea or nay - that it’s something we agree or disagree on.
As a woman who’s been told to be silent about topics that have impacted my life (medical issues) because I haven’t been “educated” in the subject, (as if my own horrorshow medical experience wasn’t an education enough? Yaaah, fuck that!) I am duty-bound to step in and say “Hold up a second there…”
…and I did.
Stick around, you’re alright, and all I ask is that you be open to being more open.
This is an explicitly trans inclusive support thread. It’s meant as a strong, visible sign that trans women are welcome and included and get to talk about their own experiences in this space.
But if you look at the replies, over half of them are people arguing, debating and pushing back against that, all saying in one way or another that no, trans people don’t get to define their own experiences on their own terms.
As someone who has been sidelined and “educated” by people trying to tell you they know your experiences better than you do, I think you should stop and consider why you chose this thread of all places to push back against trans folk…
I’m sorry, but I don’t see how I’m being closed-minded. All I did was express my opinion and got dogpiled, then was told I’m silencing others with my opinion. That doesn’t feel good. I’m sorry that disclosing my being personally uncomfortable with being continually reminded of my biological sex is a censoring act; again I know this is a complicated issue with multiple perspectives. Respectfully, I’m doing what I feel I need to do by stepping away. Feel free to reply if you’d like, but I need to be done now.
I’m getting strong terf vibes. She didn’t say say anything that was offensive and wasn’t trying to censor you.
I think you need to deal with your own issues. Your medical issues don’t give you the right to speak about another vulnerable group’s health.
Oh, not me. It’s about limiting a conversation to singular experiences, as if sexism within the medical industry doesn’t exist for women OR trans women.
Ask me how I know.