I come from a generation where there were many societal references to younger males (let’s say 12 to 16) being attracted to older women. Think of Van Halen’s Hot for Teacher or the scene from the Blues Brothers where the playboy Bunny was thrown through a kid’s bedroom and he says “Thank you, god!”. When I was that age I would have loved the chance to have had sex with an older woman. I think it’s a normal part of the sexual awakening of young straight males.

So there’s a story very similar in some sub about a 14yo kid having a woman in her mid-twenties coming on to him. I don’t remember if anything physically happened between them. The news about it at the time was saying the kid was traumatized and everyone was screaming it was sexual assault. I posted something along the lines of it being a dream of mine for this to have happened to me. And it would have been. Well you can imagine what happened next. Those on the Internet whose views have been hardened by group think and psychology and where there is no room for any discussion or questioning of these ideas attacked en masse. One person in particular said they were immediately reporting me to the admin of the sub, and sure enough I was banned from the sub within 30 minutes.

People on social media fall into being judge and jury at the slightest push. They’re so terrified of losing their group identity that they’ve shut out any ability to question or consider another viewpoint. They’re exactly like the villagers with pitchforks rushing to Frankenstein’s castle to kill “the monster”.

So many reasons, in no particular order.

1. Same questions and content being repeated again and again

2. The environment became hostile, so many people arguing.

3. Intrusion of politics into everything. Particularly right wing politics.

4. Extremely inconsistent modding of forums and inconsistent bans etc…

5. Going public, changes to API, old reddit, comercialization, selling data for AI

I joined when it was a much smaller place, now there are many millions. I realise I like smaller communities. It’s why I left Facebook.

I said that tech oligarchs need pain and ruination. It earned me a ban.

3 day ban for “They (here meaning men in the American southeast) hate electric vehicles almost as much as they hate black people.”

Permabanned for calling Ann Coulter racist. Appealed, appeal said bam was overturned, account suspension was never lifted. No way to appeal further. 15 years on the platform down the drain. You can’t even look at my comment history anymore.

I cant remember which sub it was, but I posted something along the line of “If Israel doesn’t stop this genocide, they’re gonna find out soon.”

I was perma banned by a zionist mod for inciting violence.

Reddit just sucks. That’s all there is to it. Bots, trolls, /hailcorporate, forced ads, forced app, bans, the API debacle, getting rid of Victoria, quarantining everything while leaving right wing trash subs brigading other subs, hivemind, karmawhoring, race to be the quip for karma no matter how serious the subject… so many reasons to avoid the place in general.

Posting links was fucking impossible.

Post some link, and it gets shadow-eaten by the spam filter.
OK, sometimes it gets auto-snatched by some posting rule, like a karma threshold or whatever, which you will not be notified of if you use old reddit.
Or it might be eaten by automoderator for reasons that are complicated to explain.
You might get the post through if you message the moderators. 1 time out of 100, they approve it. 19 times out of 100, they go “this post doesn’t seem to be cultured enough to fall under my narrow definition of what’s fitting, sorry.” the rest of the time, nothing. (At least I didn’t get turbo banned. I hear that’s what has happened to some people who messaged moderators for innocuous things.)

Meanwhile, shit from corporate shill accounts just flies through because they spend their time (and money) avoiding the landmines.

They say they want community members, not corp sock puppets. Yet, 10+ year old accounts are still considered just as suspicious as fresh users what comes to “link spam”.

Permabanned for “threatening violence” because somebody asked what everyone was planning for retirement, and my answer was a sturdy rope. So I guess suicidal ideation is verboten

None. Never used Reddit. Never will.

Same goes for any corporate social media.

It was really fun a long time ago; getting gifts/exchanging gifts. Secret Santa. Making artwork and just trading it for stuff, lots of subs. And overtime all of that was gone. It became a hateful festering pile of shit. Once reddit became “old” it was done and it showed. It really became a hardcore data mining trash bin. Getting multiple down votes for things I disagreed with was it for me; not that I care about the down votes, it’s just there was no comments no interaction. Reddit maybe has a few more years left in my opinion, with new users only joining because it was indirectly advertised by the people that made it what it is. It’s like Regr’etsy, wasn’t too bad on launch to hey allibaba or temu is in the house!

I said that nuclear arms race was just stupid at this point.

“I’ll kill everyone”

“If you kill everyone I’ll kill everyone”

“Well I can kill everyone 3 times over”

“If you kill everyone 3 times over I’ll kill everyone 20 times over”

“Oh yeah? We’re working on a way to kill everyone 200 times over”

Anyway that got me a 3 week ban for inciting violence. When I pressed the appeal button and said “its actually condemning violence, theres context there” it got upgraded to a permanent ban.

That was the 3rd time I got banned. The first time was from typing “genji main btw” into an overwatch post complaining about how theres no people playing support.

I run and grew /r/piracy for over 10 years. I took part in the api protests and also urged people to migrate to lemmy publicly. One of my mods went behind my back and asked the admins to demod me and rearrange mods so that they’re on top, and the admins complied. Then the sub went back to business as usual.

Haven’t used it for it to suck. Mostly lurking. Came to Lemmy to try it out.

The mod for r/AdultChildrenofNarcissists disappeared, and replacement essentially admitted that they were running an experiment and couldn’t give more details because it would ruin the experiment. They also said they were going to try to remove the anti-parent bias in the subreddit. So much for that support group.

So anyway, r/AdultKidsofNarcissists was created, but there’s no reason to think that same sort of thing didn’t happen to a bunch of other subreddits. They will eventually sell the comment database to someone who’ll run a poorly thought out LLM and find red flags by cross referencing a support group subreddit with other subreddits and cause real world consequences. It isn’t enough to stop using reddit now; they already have the posts and will have them forever.